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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 544536" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>I saw a lot of this with Onyxx and Jett - Jett was not quite 4 when Bio took them and left husband. He was 5 when I met them - Onyxx was 8.</p><p></p><p>Bio didn't make them follow the same rules we did, such as bed times (and we had them on <em>weekends</em>!), limiting television/video games (which doesn't work anymore, but it did back then), being respectful (you know how THAT ended up). Any time they would get reprimanded or a consequence imposed with us, she sent a nasty email/message to us about being unfair or stupid and how she would make sure they followed the rules and he needed to man up and be a REAL father. (As we've discussed their custody battle was UGLY.) And, no, any consequences imposed with us were not imposed with her - though she did expect us to follow through on consequences she imposed (Jett was grounded once for calling husband at 2 AM - but what "grounded" meant, we never did find out. Made it hard to follow through.)</p><p></p><p>Basically, what I learned is this. Mommy is Mommy and Daddy is Daddy. They don't get along too well, so they aren't married anymore. Part of them not getting along is they can't agree on anything, including rules. So - Mommy can do it that way, but that's not the way Daddy does it...</p><p></p><p>It hoovers BIG TIME. But unless something horrible happens... <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 544536, member: 6705"] I saw a lot of this with Onyxx and Jett - Jett was not quite 4 when Bio took them and left husband. He was 5 when I met them - Onyxx was 8. Bio didn't make them follow the same rules we did, such as bed times (and we had them on [I]weekends[/I]!), limiting television/video games (which doesn't work anymore, but it did back then), being respectful (you know how THAT ended up). Any time they would get reprimanded or a consequence imposed with us, she sent a nasty email/message to us about being unfair or stupid and how she would make sure they followed the rules and he needed to man up and be a REAL father. (As we've discussed their custody battle was UGLY.) And, no, any consequences imposed with us were not imposed with her - though she did expect us to follow through on consequences she imposed (Jett was grounded once for calling husband at 2 AM - but what "grounded" meant, we never did find out. Made it hard to follow through.) Basically, what I learned is this. Mommy is Mommy and Daddy is Daddy. They don't get along too well, so they aren't married anymore. Part of them not getting along is they can't agree on anything, including rules. So - Mommy can do it that way, but that's not the way Daddy does it... It hoovers BIG TIME. But unless something horrible happens... :sigh: [/QUOTE]
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