I thought I'd let you all know that our grandson has been with us for two weeks tomorrow. Everything is working out fine. We've had our moments, but I think we have the kinks worked out now. Our grandson did have a psychological evaluation done and it stated, ADHD and opposition defiance disorder and to see a psychiatrist for possible medication. At first, we did see the ADHD and the defiance. He acted up on me two times pretty badly when told to sit on the time out stool. It was pretty unbelievable to me as I have never seen that kind of behavior out of him. Grandpa had to step in and give a "man growl" to get things to settle. Whew! We have a pretty structured home life, it's calm and predictable here, he gets three meals, naps, stimulation, exercise, and attention. Last Monday he started daycare and he absolutely LOVES having other children to play with and has done really well there. Our 4 yr. old grandson wakes up nicely in the mornings, gets his clothes on, puts his jammies in the hamper, makes his bed and comes out to eat. He does this UNSUPERVISED! He takes a nice nap at daycare and.................... goes to bed here at 8pm willingly and with a smile on his face. This week his diagnosis's are not showing themselves. My husband and I think we may hold off on medication and see how this plays out. Could it be that since his life is calmer, his behaviors are too? He has other issue's but I don't think there is a medication for that. He's been such a loving, good kid and wants so badly to please. He told us that he wants to stay here for ever and ever! I don't know what the future holds, but he really likes it here. On a sad, angry note................... His mother visited count them ONE TIME (because I hounded her) in two weeks time and has talked to her son on the phone three times. His father????????? Has not visited nor called even once. What losers! Who could do that to a child? I know now.