Kahlil Gibran: "AND a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to the children, And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of LIfes longing for itself. They come through you (or to you as in adoption), And although they are with you they belong not to you It is important that parents do not own, nor can they control, their adult children--thank goodness. There are no guarantees of happy endings. (A bit somber, but so very true).