difficult child told therapist about his extended probation. He stated it simply, and the dr said he was very sorry to hear that and it was discouraging and upsetting ... and after he talked a few min., he asked difficult child why he got back into spice. difficult child said, "I didn't. I think it was a false positive." The fact that difficult child sat there and didn't interrupt him, and was so calm is nothing short of a miracle. I think that part of it is the depakote. difficult child spoke his piece, and twice had to stop, put his hand to his chest, inhale and exhale deeply, compose himself, and then continue. I was so proud of him! Then he asked to be alone with-the therapist for a min so I left the room. That drives me nuts! I waited about 3 hrs after we got home and then casually mentioned it to him ... and he said it had nothing to do with-drugs, just something he didn't feel he could discuss with-me. That leaves one topic ... I'm guessing he asked the therapist a question regarding him and his girlfriend. Sigh. Scary ... she does not have much guidance at home and difficult child is the one gathering info. I do not want a grandchild right now! Later, husband talked to me and said he wants to go with-difficult child to the PO mtng and have his urine tested too, because they are taking the same supplements, lots of stuff that is mixed with-melatonin. Wow. husband immediately assumed the worst, and now, because difficult child's behavior is so good, he's beginning to trust him. We have often told difficult child that actions speak louder than words. I think he's learning!