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<blockquote data-quote="emotionallybankrupt" data-source="post: 342004" data-attributes="member: 8226"><p>Thank you so much for your responses. Yes, this is SO painful, and I'm finding myself crying again as I read your replies--just to be understood. The sting from the "arrogant wonders," as I now call them, have been especially painful, because they are "friends" who have been so supportive in the past. The first "hit" made me dissolve in tears; the second one made me buck up in anger, as I sarcastically (but quite seriously) replied that I am SO glad to know there is a caring place for difficult child to go in her time of need, and asking for a full street address to pass along when the call comes. The response was the information I requested, in a "name, rank, and serial number" monotone, along with the tag of, "I don't believe for a minute you're going to do that." We'll just see about that.</p><p> </p><p>Underlying it all, however, is the most raw pain, as I know you understand. I think I'll always be amazed that any "friend" could begin a sentence with "You should," or "You need to,"--or the dreaded, "If I were you, I would...." I'm more guarded than ever now, though. I'm learning I really don't know which "friends" will just add to the pain. You're right, RM--they don't know what it was like in this house.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, maybe change will come later. I've not lost hope, but I think it will take a lot of time. Maybe in time, Janet, ours can be a success story like yours. Thank you for sharing in such detail. It really helped. Jane--how do manage keeping the boundaries with your daughter? What limits have you set?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="emotionallybankrupt, post: 342004, member: 8226"] Thank you so much for your responses. Yes, this is SO painful, and I'm finding myself crying again as I read your replies--just to be understood. The sting from the "arrogant wonders," as I now call them, have been especially painful, because they are "friends" who have been so supportive in the past. The first "hit" made me dissolve in tears; the second one made me buck up in anger, as I sarcastically (but quite seriously) replied that I am SO glad to know there is a caring place for difficult child to go in her time of need, and asking for a full street address to pass along when the call comes. The response was the information I requested, in a "name, rank, and serial number" monotone, along with the tag of, "I don't believe for a minute you're going to do that." We'll just see about that. Underlying it all, however, is the most raw pain, as I know you understand. I think I'll always be amazed that any "friend" could begin a sentence with "You should," or "You need to,"--or the dreaded, "If I were you, I would...." I'm more guarded than ever now, though. I'm learning I really don't know which "friends" will just add to the pain. You're right, RM--they don't know what it was like in this house. Yes, maybe change will come later. I've not lost hope, but I think it will take a lot of time. Maybe in time, Janet, ours can be a success story like yours. Thank you for sharing in such detail. It really helped. Jane--how do manage keeping the boundaries with your daughter? What limits have you set? [/QUOTE]
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