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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 93582" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>I personally think what you are struggling most with is your identity. You identify yourself through your family. I think most moms go through this. But, a time comes when you have to re-identify yourself. </p><p></p><p>I think many people said this in the 'do you miss being needed' thread that Suz started. I think she recognized a common theme for us all. That need to re-identify ourselves at a certain point in our families' lives. </p><p></p><p>I think I qualify to re-identify because my difficult child is just so resistant to parenting that I am left with few options of responsibility left. She still goes with the flow for some rules - like time to be home, where she is, who she is with, etc. Which is just amazing to me. But, most other parenting things get met with a brick wall. </p><p></p><p>So, how to re-identify myself? </p><p></p><p>I need to discover some interests that are just for me. Not boyfriend or difficult child. Just me. But, I still have responsibilities at home so it can not take me out of the house every night or for hours at a time. I still have to keep up the house, laundry, groceries and meals. These are the things that I feel are standing in the way of figuring out how to re-identify me. </p><p></p><p>How do you all do it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 93582, member: 391"] I personally think what you are struggling most with is your identity. You identify yourself through your family. I think most moms go through this. But, a time comes when you have to re-identify yourself. I think many people said this in the 'do you miss being needed' thread that Suz started. I think she recognized a common theme for us all. That need to re-identify ourselves at a certain point in our families' lives. I think I qualify to re-identify because my difficult child is just so resistant to parenting that I am left with few options of responsibility left. She still goes with the flow for some rules - like time to be home, where she is, who she is with, etc. Which is just amazing to me. But, most other parenting things get met with a brick wall. So, how to re-identify myself? I need to discover some interests that are just for me. Not boyfriend or difficult child. Just me. But, I still have responsibilities at home so it can not take me out of the house every night or for hours at a time. I still have to keep up the house, laundry, groceries and meals. These are the things that I feel are standing in the way of figuring out how to re-identify me. How do you all do it? [/QUOTE]
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