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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 99081" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>"but maybe he does and I just dont let him have a chance because I am doing it for him. Duh!"</p><p></p><p>Could not have said it better. There is so much truth in what you said. I look at it this way if a parent coddles their adult child or drops everything to rescue this adult that for whatever reason continues to make bad choices then how is it that they are supposed to figure out life in general. We all had to start somewhere to be who we are today. I let go when my difficult child was on the street(4 months)I knew that my grabbing her up for the save was not the answer knowing that she would not want the help offered. I basically came to the conclusion that she had to hit rock bottom and decide for herself if she wanted her life to be different, She did and she is doing great now. It was the hardest time of my life not knowing that she was ok. But we got through it. Its all about life lessons, We all have to experience it to learn by it. You will never know how your son feels let alone what hes going through (But remember he chose his path), You can only imagine and I see that you have been struggling with that but you have come a long ways as far as realizing that you have to let go. Stay tough and don't let his bad choices that you don't have the power to change take you over.</p><p></p><p>:Quote: If you want to see what children can do, you must stop giving them things."</p><p>Norman Douglas</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 99081, member: 2727"] "but maybe he does and I just dont let him have a chance because I am doing it for him. Duh!" Could not have said it better. There is so much truth in what you said. I look at it this way if a parent coddles their adult child or drops everything to rescue this adult that for whatever reason continues to make bad choices then how is it that they are supposed to figure out life in general. We all had to start somewhere to be who we are today. I let go when my difficult child was on the street(4 months)I knew that my grabbing her up for the save was not the answer knowing that she would not want the help offered. I basically came to the conclusion that she had to hit rock bottom and decide for herself if she wanted her life to be different, She did and she is doing great now. It was the hardest time of my life not knowing that she was ok. But we got through it. Its all about life lessons, We all have to experience it to learn by it. You will never know how your son feels let alone what hes going through (But remember he chose his path), You can only imagine and I see that you have been struggling with that but you have come a long ways as far as realizing that you have to let go. Stay tough and don't let his bad choices that you don't have the power to change take you over. :Quote: If you want to see what children can do, you must stop giving them things." Norman Douglas [/QUOTE]
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