You know, I've put up with alot of major **** out of husband for the past 25 yrs. I made excuses for about the first 2/3s of the marriage. The first 1/3 of it I was blind to alot of it. Now I wonder what I ever saw in him. The man digusts me. He makes me furious. I don't like talking to him. I don't like being in the same house with him. He's a rotten husband, and an even worse father. He is being a major horse's arse over the whole stepdau issue. Oh, he likes hearing the news, but then he's all........I'm never forgiving her. I never want to talk to her again. I don't ever want anything to do with her again bs. I'd like to say that K hurt him when she left. But I seriously doubt it. I've doubted he gave a darn even at the time. As soon as husband figured out not pretending to be the perfect Daddy didn't have conscequences with his parents.......K was out of sight out of mind. I made him call her. I made the visitation happen. I made sure the child support got paid. I made sure she got xmas and birthday gifts. And even when she visited, he never spent any time with her. In all honesty, husband isn't any better with the kids here either. If he's not accusing them of something stupid, he ignores them. He has a tantrum if I'm watching the grands, or invite the kids over. He has a fit if I go do something with them. I could go on and on. easy child told me not long ago she suspects her Dad is schizophrenic. When I look at hiim objectively........as I've been able to the past 6+ yrs now, I can see that it's highly possible. And I just don't care. I'm sick of the antisocial behavior. I'm sick of the I know everything about everything. I'm sick of the grumpy old man routine to the nth degree I've put up with since he was 35 yrs old. I'm sick of the hypochondria. Sick of the laziness, not wanting to work, not paying the bills (yes that's started again), making money disappear, and sneaking to borrow form payday loan places. husband cares for no one except himself. Period. He is the center of his universe. The difficult child who never grew up. And before my well meaning board family tells me to get rid of husband........I'm in the process and have been. That's why I'm in school. The SOB owes me that much just for sticking 25 yrs to the most one sided marriage in history. In just a few minutes I'm going to call this man's daughter he hasn't seen or talked to in 6 years. I'm going to talk to his first born who may not even be alive come this same time next year. And he throws a tantrum. He's smart enough not to tell me I can't do what I want as far as K is concerned. But that doesn't stop him from being a major arse when there is something going on that involves her. easy child and I've both talked to neuro back here. The behaviors and symptoms she displayed while here are consistant with her condition. She is no difficult child. We were wrong. Now I'm calling her. husband can go straight to h*ll.