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<blockquote data-quote="Truthsong" data-source="post: 400637"><p>Hi, I'm new here. I've gotten some wonderful help since I signed on and I wanted to try to offer my help in return.</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like your daughter is doing quite well and that is a real reason to be happy. Congratulations to you both for getting there. </p><p> </p><p>Regarding the sleeping, it may just be that she is making up for lost sleep. If she was on drugs and homeless, she probably didn't get much sleep and the sleep she got was probably not restful. Also, I know that nicotine has the effect of giving one energy, so since she's trying to quit, she's probably got less energy than she is used to. I think it's good to get her bloodwork done. Also, you might want to just make sure her diet is healthy. If she's gained weight, it could be due to having to eat food that wasn't as good for her, and that drains one of energy as well. The healthier her diet is, the more energy she is likely to have. </p><p> </p><p>About the job search... my easy child daughter, now 19, was having a heck of a time find a job. Not because there weren't jobs out there but because she was essentially frozen with fear. She had no idea what to do, say, etc. and that was causing her to put off her job search. I thought she was really being lazy and we had several arguments about it. But it turned out it was because she was so worried about doing it wrong, and was really not even sure where to start, that she kept putting it off. The longer she put it off, the more anxious she got and the cycle just went down from there. Finally, a family friend offered her an internship where he works and she's been there since June. She worked full time over the summer and is still there part time while she attends community college. Her work ethic makes me extremely proud and she has proven time and time again that she is willing to do the hard work they ask of her. So it was never that she didn't want to work, it was just that she didn't know how to get there from where she was. All that being said, I don't presume to know your daughter. But if you talk with her, maybe she will tell you what her reasons are for not making the effort and from there, you can find a way to help her or get her some help. I'm sure she wants to be successful since she has already made so much effort to improve her life in other ways. A job would really help her confidence and allow her to begin rebuilding. And she knows from observing <em>your</em> work ethic how good it feels to do well at work. So I am going to go out on a limb and say it's probably not because she doesn't want to work. I don't know about the specifics of your area, but in many places around the country, there are non-profit organizations that help people learn job skills. They teach people how to dress, what to say, what <em>not</em> to say, where to look and how to fill out an application/resume. I believe unemployment offices offer that if nothing else. If your area has something like that, you might want to consider taking her there. If your area doesn't have anything like that, perhaps showing her yourself would help. Or perhaps a combination of both. </p><p> </p><p>I wish you all the best and hope these improvements become a permanent part of your lives.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Truthsong, post: 400637"] Hi, I'm new here. I've gotten some wonderful help since I signed on and I wanted to try to offer my help in return. It sounds like your daughter is doing quite well and that is a real reason to be happy. Congratulations to you both for getting there. Regarding the sleeping, it may just be that she is making up for lost sleep. If she was on drugs and homeless, she probably didn't get much sleep and the sleep she got was probably not restful. Also, I know that nicotine has the effect of giving one energy, so since she's trying to quit, she's probably got less energy than she is used to. I think it's good to get her bloodwork done. Also, you might want to just make sure her diet is healthy. If she's gained weight, it could be due to having to eat food that wasn't as good for her, and that drains one of energy as well. The healthier her diet is, the more energy she is likely to have. About the job search... my easy child daughter, now 19, was having a heck of a time find a job. Not because there weren't jobs out there but because she was essentially frozen with fear. She had no idea what to do, say, etc. and that was causing her to put off her job search. I thought she was really being lazy and we had several arguments about it. But it turned out it was because she was so worried about doing it wrong, and was really not even sure where to start, that she kept putting it off. The longer she put it off, the more anxious she got and the cycle just went down from there. Finally, a family friend offered her an internship where he works and she's been there since June. She worked full time over the summer and is still there part time while she attends community college. Her work ethic makes me extremely proud and she has proven time and time again that she is willing to do the hard work they ask of her. So it was never that she didn't want to work, it was just that she didn't know how to get there from where she was. All that being said, I don't presume to know your daughter. But if you talk with her, maybe she will tell you what her reasons are for not making the effort and from there, you can find a way to help her or get her some help. I'm sure she wants to be successful since she has already made so much effort to improve her life in other ways. A job would really help her confidence and allow her to begin rebuilding. And she knows from observing [I]your[/I] work ethic how good it feels to do well at work. So I am going to go out on a limb and say it's probably not because she doesn't want to work. I don't know about the specifics of your area, but in many places around the country, there are non-profit organizations that help people learn job skills. They teach people how to dress, what to say, what [I]not[/I] to say, where to look and how to fill out an application/resume. I believe unemployment offices offer that if nothing else. If your area has something like that, you might want to consider taking her there. If your area doesn't have anything like that, perhaps showing her yourself would help. Or perhaps a combination of both. I wish you all the best and hope these improvements become a permanent part of your lives. [/QUOTE]
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