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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 298091" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>I really don't have much advice that is any better or better worded than what has already been said.</p><p></p><p>I do wonder though, if you speak to the counselor ahead of time, if you could set up an appointment with difficult child, yourself AND sister there. Yes, you could be setting yourself up for more ugliness but....assuming the counselor said things in the way that Star mentioned, it could be a good thing for <u>you</u> to offer a group session. YOU are the one showing the initiative, YOU are the one with the voice of reason. If the counselor sees the three of you together and gets a bigger piece of the picture, he may be able to help difficult child make up his own mind and see things for what they are as well as help him to see that he CAN'T just move in or out as the mood strikes.</p><p></p><p>This may not be feasable or something you would be willing to put yourself through but it's just a thought. </p><p></p><p>It's easy for us to sit here and tell you to ignore your sister, she's toxic, blah blah blah. But we're not the ones who have to listen to it and live it. I'm sorry you don't have the kind of sister you deserve and I'm sorry she's got such a nasty hold over difficult child. I wish I knew how to fix it. HUGS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 298091, member: 2459"] I really don't have much advice that is any better or better worded than what has already been said. I do wonder though, if you speak to the counselor ahead of time, if you could set up an appointment with difficult child, yourself AND sister there. Yes, you could be setting yourself up for more ugliness but....assuming the counselor said things in the way that Star mentioned, it could be a good thing for [U]you[/U] to offer a group session. YOU are the one showing the initiative, YOU are the one with the voice of reason. If the counselor sees the three of you together and gets a bigger piece of the picture, he may be able to help difficult child make up his own mind and see things for what they are as well as help him to see that he CAN'T just move in or out as the mood strikes. This may not be feasable or something you would be willing to put yourself through but it's just a thought. It's easy for us to sit here and tell you to ignore your sister, she's toxic, blah blah blah. But we're not the ones who have to listen to it and live it. I'm sorry you don't have the kind of sister you deserve and I'm sorry she's got such a nasty hold over difficult child. I wish I knew how to fix it. HUGS [/QUOTE]
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