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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 483240" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Wow, Janet, even Q didn't do that when he was little... And no matter the reason, I want him to learn the skills to make people feel better, to help him to repair relationships that might be affected (will be affected) by this. When he asked as loudly as possible why my sister was acting like a B to him.... (first time he has ever done that so blatently in front of people) I let him calm down for a little bit. I knew confronting him would escalate things. Then when he was sitting in a corner with his ds, I told him he had a choice... since he was having a hard time controlling his words, he could get ready to go and we would go home and relax. OR...he could go and apologize to his auntie and check in with her to see how he could make it better. He went to her and at first from 15 feet away said sorry (no eye contact etc.) I said, ok get your coat. He then walked over to her and called her name (we have REALLY practiced this.... you get their attention first, look for thier face to turn to you then say sorry) and he said sorry properly. He ended up sitting with her and going thru the ads (thats when they found the stationary bike to escape from me...teehee). </p><p></p><p>Doesn't matter why, they have to live in the real world and I just feel it is my job to help him gain skills to function in it....at least as much as he can. </p><p></p><p>I have wondered if I am going to have to reduce my group events now. If he doesn't go back to baseline Q, not easy but doable.... I think I may have to make a decision like IC. My family would understand though, they would just feel badly for me and Q not angry with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 483240, member: 12886"] Wow, Janet, even Q didn't do that when he was little... And no matter the reason, I want him to learn the skills to make people feel better, to help him to repair relationships that might be affected (will be affected) by this. When he asked as loudly as possible why my sister was acting like a B to him.... (first time he has ever done that so blatently in front of people) I let him calm down for a little bit. I knew confronting him would escalate things. Then when he was sitting in a corner with his ds, I told him he had a choice... since he was having a hard time controlling his words, he could get ready to go and we would go home and relax. OR...he could go and apologize to his auntie and check in with her to see how he could make it better. He went to her and at first from 15 feet away said sorry (no eye contact etc.) I said, ok get your coat. He then walked over to her and called her name (we have REALLY practiced this.... you get their attention first, look for thier face to turn to you then say sorry) and he said sorry properly. He ended up sitting with her and going thru the ads (thats when they found the stationary bike to escape from me...teehee). Doesn't matter why, they have to live in the real world and I just feel it is my job to help him gain skills to function in it....at least as much as he can. I have wondered if I am going to have to reduce my group events now. If he doesn't go back to baseline Q, not easy but doable.... I think I may have to make a decision like IC. My family would understand though, they would just feel badly for me and Q not angry with us. [/QUOTE]
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