Our daughter has been in the residential treatment center for two weeks and we had our first phone therapy session yesterday. We talked to the therapist without our daughter for a few minutes. What the therapist had perceived as our daughter being "open" was her just parroting issues that she had been talking about in therapy for years...the fact that she is embarrassed because her skin color is different that ours (she is adopted) and that she is jealous of her brothers since they were with us from birth. We were pretty up front with the therapist that we don't trust our daughter. Our daughter wrote us an apology note but then when we talk to her on the phone, she is still very easily angered, demanding and shows no interest in wanting a relationship. The apology note was simply something she did to acquire some reward slip at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The therapist did seem to understand that we are doing everything we can to find a long term treatment program. The options as we see them: 1) working through juvenile justice (although several sources have told us that they are so swamped right now, they most likely won't do anything). Our attorney is supposed to be talking to the prosecutor hypothetically about our daughter and see what he says. 2) working through CPS to get co conservatorship. 3) doing a refusal to accept parental responsibility...the therapist brought this up to us (without our daughter present). She said it would be a last resort but parents do it to force the court to give our case some attention. My daughter is playing the same kind of manipulation games at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as she does at home. She is completely unable to entertain herself. They are calling her behavior flirting/bullying. I refer to it more as stalking. same difference. They also see a great lack of boundaries, impulse control and a constant need to stir things up. My daughter was very angry that the therapist brought her negative behaviors up in therapy. My daughter wants to come home and start fresh. The therapist did an excellent job of telling her that because of her molesting younger children, things were not going to be the same ever. She then said she didn't want to come home because there is nothing to do. They did a QEEG on her and found that she is having partial complex seizures and there were dysrhthmias in both the frontal lobe and limbic regions of the brain. The doctor will mostly likely be upping her depakote and maybe adding amintidine. She also takes focalin, intuniv and prozac. These are my questions: *What behaviors can these medicines help? *How long does it take to see changes? We also have had issues with her calling us and playing games on the phone like saying she doesn't want to talk to me (mom); she wants to talk to dad...asking for things (make-up, pictures, packages) then not even mentioning when a package arrives (let alone saying thank you)---no evidence at all of any remorse, focus on anything other than the same old stuff. We are supposed to visit her next week. I plan on making the visit fairly brief...trying to set healthy limits for all. Have any of you had experience with joint/co conservatorship? How did you make that happen and how did it work? We feel pretty desperate to make something happen. We still only know that she was approved through yesterday with insurance...very anxiety producing not knowing how long they'll cover. We are also still waiting on the results of the complete psychiatric...lots up in the air...exhausting!