My son just turned 18, i believe he spitefully quit h.s., thinking he was punishing me for him having a record, he blames me for everything, is furious, disrespectful, violent, drug using, sleeps all day, spitefully wont help with-chores... he is mean to his siblings, steals from us and destroys my property, does not have remorse, nor attempt to replace or fix what he broke... He tried to have me arrested for smacking him, when he bad-mouthed me for the 1000th time! he used to bad-mouth me when i woke him for school, it was mortifying to deal with-school personnel, and tell them im afraid of my son.. seems everywhere i turn, people want to blame me, im a single parent, im disabled, i must have abused him, and now his lawyer telling me he never heard of a son/mother domestic violence, must be something my son is hiding, and his upbringing, that makes him so angry. ive brought him to psychiatric unit, they said he was bipolar, same hospital now says there is nothing wrong with-him after seeing my son for 5 min, the boy pathologically lies and manipulates whoever becomes involved, to the point they look at me with disgust, and believe him.. he will not go to probation, rehab, etc. and it scares me how it seems he is begging to be punished and put in jail, where he is now...i have beeen all over trying to get him help for 3 years, place him somewhere, went to social services, told they did not have funding, etc., i get furious and depressed at the lack of help when they are over the age of 16. He also has hepa privacy laws, and therapists leave me in the dark about him, yet the judge is yelling at me to get him in another rehab, the judge is keeping him in jail supposedly till my son chooses rehab, my son is choosing jail, he was beat up in jail at 17, taken to hospital and i was never notified, yet this state says i am legally responsible for him till he is 21, he will sue me for child support, and i will lose everything, as i am on disability income.. im very confused, cry all the time, and have constant terror, that if he is on the street he will definetely overdose, and kill himself, the local hospital here is a nightmare, that they refuse to diagnose him..sorry for the rant, having a hard time getting any thoughts in order, on top of this my boy is contacting my x, not his father, but father of my other 2 boys from jail, and it is definetely for them both to gang up on me and try to take my little ones away as revenge, this boy has too much power..i have no fight left, with-all the psychotic turmoil ive been through with-him, mostly he hates me for having him arrested i dont think that ever can be patched up, i dont want my son to die, i feel 90% sure he will, why that is not considered a danger to himself i dont understand, why noone will help, courts, doctors.