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<blockquote data-quote="emotionallybankrupt" data-source="post: 316145" data-attributes="member: 8226"><p>This has been an interesting process for me in that I've not been able to anticipate moves in advance, as far as my wants and needs are concerned, or as far as what I'm going to do. I fully planned to take over that bedroom for my own use somehow, as well as to repaint, replace curtains, everything new, new, new. Then when the time came, I felt completely different. I chose that paint and I chose those curtains, and I like them! The wallpaper border matches, and I like it too! I decided that was a lot of extra work for me to change it since I liked what I had. The only thing I did to the room itself was to have somebody repair the door, which difficult child had split top to bottom in a rage one night.</p><p> </p><p>I was glad to get rid of the bedroom furniture. difficult child's dad had picked it out especially for her when she was a little girl, and I never considered keeping it. I was ruffled at the time that my dear ex (husband at that time) just went out and bought it without my being involved in the choosing or even knowing he was looking for a replacement for what was there. I simply came home to find the bedroom newly furnished. Even though I really liked his choice, I never quite got over not being involved in the shopping. Funny how those slights never completely go away! That's been more than 10 years ago!</p><p> </p><p>As far as the room, I realized that what would help me most was to do something to give my other child a perk and a smile. Bedrooms in my house are small, so I let her choose one room to be her "bedroom" and one to be her "playroom." She's had a blast. I also let her pick out a new theme for the bathroom she and her sister had used, to make it totally different and all her own. I think this approach has helped BOTH of us much more with the adjustment process than my "Plan A" would have, and in both cases I thought of it and did it in the time span of a day or two.</p><p> </p><p>All these moves are very inconsistent with my typical personality. I usually have to think any decision through for a long time for making a move. I'm not sure what that's all about, or what I'm likely to do next for that matter! </p><p> </p><p>I think the theme may be that I am continuing to learn to trust my instincts more than I ever have in the past. Looking backward, that's probably the main change I would make in my decisions through the years. I've almost always regretted the times I failed to go with my gut instincts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="emotionallybankrupt, post: 316145, member: 8226"] This has been an interesting process for me in that I've not been able to anticipate moves in advance, as far as my wants and needs are concerned, or as far as what I'm going to do. I fully planned to take over that bedroom for my own use somehow, as well as to repaint, replace curtains, everything new, new, new. Then when the time came, I felt completely different. I chose that paint and I chose those curtains, and I like them! The wallpaper border matches, and I like it too! I decided that was a lot of extra work for me to change it since I liked what I had. The only thing I did to the room itself was to have somebody repair the door, which difficult child had split top to bottom in a rage one night. I was glad to get rid of the bedroom furniture. difficult child's dad had picked it out especially for her when she was a little girl, and I never considered keeping it. I was ruffled at the time that my dear ex (husband at that time) just went out and bought it without my being involved in the choosing or even knowing he was looking for a replacement for what was there. I simply came home to find the bedroom newly furnished. Even though I really liked his choice, I never quite got over not being involved in the shopping. Funny how those slights never completely go away! That's been more than 10 years ago! As far as the room, I realized that what would help me most was to do something to give my other child a perk and a smile. Bedrooms in my house are small, so I let her choose one room to be her "bedroom" and one to be her "playroom." She's had a blast. I also let her pick out a new theme for the bathroom she and her sister had used, to make it totally different and all her own. I think this approach has helped BOTH of us much more with the adjustment process than my "Plan A" would have, and in both cases I thought of it and did it in the time span of a day or two. All these moves are very inconsistent with my typical personality. I usually have to think any decision through for a long time for making a move. I'm not sure what that's all about, or what I'm likely to do next for that matter! I think the theme may be that I am continuing to learn to trust my instincts more than I ever have in the past. Looking backward, that's probably the main change I would make in my decisions through the years. I've almost always regretted the times I failed to go with my gut instincts. [/QUOTE]
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