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Handcuffed difficult child 2 had a chat with the cop yesterday
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 312661" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>This is a very scary situation. I totally understand how scared you must have felt when you called the police. Have been there myself up to the point where I said my son could not come home. It is hard no matter what you do.</p><p></p><p>I do think that your son is going to see juvy and/or jail unless you get him stabilized. You cannot do it at home at this point. He will know you are reluctant to put him in jail, even juvy, and may use this against you. </p><p></p><p>I realize that you probably called the police because the degree of the violence was so high, it was after hours and on a Friday so no message would be returned until Monday or later. It is very good that you got a really good officer. Not all of them are that good. Now you must sit and make some decisions and plans. First off you need to call and leave a message for the psychiatrist and any tdocs you are seeing. Then you need to make a safety plan. </p><p></p><p>How are you and SO going to keep everyone safe at all times? </p><p></p><p>What help do you need from family, friends, police, doctors, etc....? </p><p></p><p>What tools do you need? Nanny cam? Personal alarms? Room alarms for at night? </p><p></p><p>What supplies do you need to stave off problems until the docs can help (it might be that the doctor says go to a hospital now, or try this medication change and wait on the hospital. If you wait, then you need to continue to keep everyone safe for an extended period of time. </p><p></p><p>As for my supply suggestions - go and get some of the nutrition bars with a 40-30-30 ratio of carb-fat-protein. Balance bars and Zone Perfect bars are this way. The balance bar gold caramel nut blast is actually quite yummy (I say this - I hate ALL "health" food but these taste like a snickers. Not the same, but good enough for my picky eating.) and my kids LOVE most of the chocolate and choc peanut butter flavors. husband likes all the flavors. Keep these locked up. Use them when kids are tired and PROTEIN is not easily available. Or when they have gotten into a lot of sugar. These will take some of the edge off, provide enough sweet to take the edge off a sweet tooth, and can defuse a cranky child who is tired and hungry. They are not cheap. I think of them as medicine because they CAN help my kids not meltdown or explode due to tiredness, too much sugar, too much activity, etc... </p><p></p><p>Planning can help until you get help from the docs. Please call them ASAP and do what you can to keep difficult child calm.</p><p></p><p>The way he hid and rushed at you, first with the PVC pipe and then to lock you out is very very scary. He is going to end up hurting someone unless you get him intensive help very very soon. I do recommend that next time you must call the police you do NOT do it where he can hear it. Also if he is locked out so you can call the police you must NOT open the door until the police come. How would you handle things if he managed to seriously hurt you when he rushed you? What if he killed you? Are you ready for everyone to have to deal with that tragedy? I don't think anyone wants that to happen. But he is big enough and strong enough to do real harm, esp with a weapon like the pipe.</p><p></p><p>by the way, if he got the pipe from the yard or shed or garage, you need to try to get it under lock and key. Same with other stuff that can be a weapon.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs, keep in touch so we know you are OK!!</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 312661, member: 1233"] This is a very scary situation. I totally understand how scared you must have felt when you called the police. Have been there myself up to the point where I said my son could not come home. It is hard no matter what you do. I do think that your son is going to see juvy and/or jail unless you get him stabilized. You cannot do it at home at this point. He will know you are reluctant to put him in jail, even juvy, and may use this against you. I realize that you probably called the police because the degree of the violence was so high, it was after hours and on a Friday so no message would be returned until Monday or later. It is very good that you got a really good officer. Not all of them are that good. Now you must sit and make some decisions and plans. First off you need to call and leave a message for the psychiatrist and any tdocs you are seeing. Then you need to make a safety plan. How are you and SO going to keep everyone safe at all times? What help do you need from family, friends, police, doctors, etc....? What tools do you need? Nanny cam? Personal alarms? Room alarms for at night? What supplies do you need to stave off problems until the docs can help (it might be that the doctor says go to a hospital now, or try this medication change and wait on the hospital. If you wait, then you need to continue to keep everyone safe for an extended period of time. As for my supply suggestions - go and get some of the nutrition bars with a 40-30-30 ratio of carb-fat-protein. Balance bars and Zone Perfect bars are this way. The balance bar gold caramel nut blast is actually quite yummy (I say this - I hate ALL "health" food but these taste like a snickers. Not the same, but good enough for my picky eating.) and my kids LOVE most of the chocolate and choc peanut butter flavors. husband likes all the flavors. Keep these locked up. Use them when kids are tired and PROTEIN is not easily available. Or when they have gotten into a lot of sugar. These will take some of the edge off, provide enough sweet to take the edge off a sweet tooth, and can defuse a cranky child who is tired and hungry. They are not cheap. I think of them as medicine because they CAN help my kids not meltdown or explode due to tiredness, too much sugar, too much activity, etc... Planning can help until you get help from the docs. Please call them ASAP and do what you can to keep difficult child calm. The way he hid and rushed at you, first with the PVC pipe and then to lock you out is very very scary. He is going to end up hurting someone unless you get him intensive help very very soon. I do recommend that next time you must call the police you do NOT do it where he can hear it. Also if he is locked out so you can call the police you must NOT open the door until the police come. How would you handle things if he managed to seriously hurt you when he rushed you? What if he killed you? Are you ready for everyone to have to deal with that tragedy? I don't think anyone wants that to happen. But he is big enough and strong enough to do real harm, esp with a weapon like the pipe. by the way, if he got the pipe from the yard or shed or garage, you need to try to get it under lock and key. Same with other stuff that can be a weapon. Many hugs, keep in touch so we know you are OK!! Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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