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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 398971" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Lisa, I think your mom is in somewhat of the same position that I have been in with my son. He has had a few "reversals of fortune" in the past, a few problems at work, some unexpected emergencies that came up, and I could see what a toll it was taking on him and how stressed out he was getting because of it. He's worked since he was very young and still in school, and is the hardest working person I know - certainly not a slacker. He once was working three jobs at once - one full time and two part time! Ordinarily I would not be in a position to help him much financially but I've found that since I retired I actually have a little more money to work with and a lot fewer expenses, plus a tiny little nest egg from my 401k, leave balance payout, etc. And I <em>have</em> helped him out a few times, never that much, and only when he was in a real spot. And he HATED it! It really, <em>REALLY</em> bothered him to accept financial help from me ... which is exactly why I didn't mind doing it for him! If it <em>didn't</em> bother him, I probably would not have done it! Had he been wasting his own money, or if he had been spending it on alcohol or drugs, or if he had demanded it or had some big sense of entitlement, he wouldn't have gotten a dime from me! But this was not the case. He was in genuine need through no fault of his own and I was very happy to be able to help him out. And now that he's gotten back on his feet, he's in a much better situation and probably won't get back in the same position again if he can help it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 398971, member: 1883"] Lisa, I think your mom is in somewhat of the same position that I have been in with my son. He has had a few "reversals of fortune" in the past, a few problems at work, some unexpected emergencies that came up, and I could see what a toll it was taking on him and how stressed out he was getting because of it. He's worked since he was very young and still in school, and is the hardest working person I know - certainly not a slacker. He once was working three jobs at once - one full time and two part time! Ordinarily I would not be in a position to help him much financially but I've found that since I retired I actually have a little more money to work with and a lot fewer expenses, plus a tiny little nest egg from my 401k, leave balance payout, etc. And I [I]have[/I] helped him out a few times, never that much, and only when he was in a real spot. And he HATED it! It really, [I]REALLY[/I] bothered him to accept financial help from me ... which is exactly why I didn't mind doing it for him! If it [I]didn't[/I] bother him, I probably would not have done it! Had he been wasting his own money, or if he had been spending it on alcohol or drugs, or if he had demanded it or had some big sense of entitlement, he wouldn't have gotten a dime from me! But this was not the case. He was in genuine need through no fault of his own and I was very happy to be able to help him out. And now that he's gotten back on his feet, he's in a much better situation and probably won't get back in the same position again if he can help it. [/QUOTE]
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