Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
hard day for difficult child and me.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 382172" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>If the other parents are telling you to stick with it and things will get better, I would listen to them. Your daughter has ODD - she may just be pushing the envelope to see how little she REALLY has to do to get what she wants. If she eats one bite and then starts fussing and they let her spend hours with you, what has she learned but to manipulate even more people? If the doctors think she is getting enough nourishment right now not to need forced IV feeding, accept what they are saying and go with it.</p><p></p><p>It's hard but she has to learn to deal with issues. I am NOT talking about situations like your other post, that was bullying and you were right to confront the nurse and even more right not to do it in front of your daughter, but she has to learn coping skills. If this is the program and it's working for these other girls, let it have a chance. We all know that our kids with ODD can outstubborn anybody, even if the only one they are hurting is themselves. My son did the same thing, although not in the same situation.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child wants to come home because she is in control there. You stay up all night to lie in bed with her, you coax and cajole her to eat and run your whole family's life around her. I am NOT criticizing you, it's our instinct as parents to do that and I can't say I wouldn't do the same because I just don't know what I would do. I do know that everyone else in my house suffered while I would spend hours begging difficult child to do his HW or whatever.</p><p></p><p>My good thoughts (I'm not a prayerful person) are with you and your family, especially your little girl who's the same age as my little boy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 382172, member: 3493"] If the other parents are telling you to stick with it and things will get better, I would listen to them. Your daughter has ODD - she may just be pushing the envelope to see how little she REALLY has to do to get what she wants. If she eats one bite and then starts fussing and they let her spend hours with you, what has she learned but to manipulate even more people? If the doctors think she is getting enough nourishment right now not to need forced IV feeding, accept what they are saying and go with it. It's hard but she has to learn to deal with issues. I am NOT talking about situations like your other post, that was bullying and you were right to confront the nurse and even more right not to do it in front of your daughter, but she has to learn coping skills. If this is the program and it's working for these other girls, let it have a chance. We all know that our kids with ODD can outstubborn anybody, even if the only one they are hurting is themselves. My son did the same thing, although not in the same situation. Your difficult child wants to come home because she is in control there. You stay up all night to lie in bed with her, you coax and cajole her to eat and run your whole family's life around her. I am NOT criticizing you, it's our instinct as parents to do that and I can't say I wouldn't do the same because I just don't know what I would do. I do know that everyone else in my house suffered while I would spend hours begging difficult child to do his HW or whatever. My good thoughts (I'm not a prayerful person) are with you and your family, especially your little girl who's the same age as my little boy. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
hard day for difficult child and me.
Top