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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 619747" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>COM, I am here too. Holding you in the circle of our care............sad days are unfortunately a part of this process...........grieving the losses as they emerge for us to see..........I'm sorry, we all know how you feel.</p><p></p><p>Packing his backpack, going to church, going to a meeting are all positive,healthy choices you made for YOU. Good for you. </p><p></p><p>Each step of the way you move closer to peace of mind.........each choice you make in the direction of detachment/acceptance brings you closer to surrendering to what is and letting go which brings you that serenity you want. You're doing a wonderful job..............and there is a good amount of sadness.</p><p></p><p>One time when we were leaving on vacation and I didn't know exactly where my daughter was, hadn't heard from her, she hadn't responded to my calls...........I left town...........it was very hard to do, but all those wise warriors here on the CD forum strongly suggested I go. As we were leaving, I put $75 in cash in an envelope on the back deck, sort of a safety net for my daughter. That act allowed me to go with a certain amount of peace. For the two weeks we were away, I gently nudged thoughts of her out of my mind and actually had quite a good time. About 10 days in, she emailed me that she was cold and had slept in her car...............I told her about the $ and she retrieved it and spent the night in a motel, had a hot shower, felt good. All she needed was that $, she thanked me and went back to wherever she was. That never happened again although I have often left money out there for her if I am out of town. Those mother choices give us some solace and they help us to cope. We all have our ways of surviving the unthinkable. Now my daughter is, at least for today, living in a nice home with a friend of hers who vowed to help her get on her feet. For today, she is safe. As we all know, that could change in an instant..............or not.............But, I just can't take that ride on her roller coaster anymore. </p><p></p><p>You have all the necessary tools, you have a wonderful, positive, realistic attitude which is bolstered by your spiritual beliefs.........hang in there COM, we're right here with you. Sending you caring wishes and gentle hugs...............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 619747, member: 13542"] COM, I am here too. Holding you in the circle of our care............sad days are unfortunately a part of this process...........grieving the losses as they emerge for us to see..........I'm sorry, we all know how you feel. Packing his backpack, going to church, going to a meeting are all positive,healthy choices you made for YOU. Good for you. Each step of the way you move closer to peace of mind.........each choice you make in the direction of detachment/acceptance brings you closer to surrendering to what is and letting go which brings you that serenity you want. You're doing a wonderful job..............and there is a good amount of sadness. One time when we were leaving on vacation and I didn't know exactly where my daughter was, hadn't heard from her, she hadn't responded to my calls...........I left town...........it was very hard to do, but all those wise warriors here on the CD forum strongly suggested I go. As we were leaving, I put $75 in cash in an envelope on the back deck, sort of a safety net for my daughter. That act allowed me to go with a certain amount of peace. For the two weeks we were away, I gently nudged thoughts of her out of my mind and actually had quite a good time. About 10 days in, she emailed me that she was cold and had slept in her car...............I told her about the $ and she retrieved it and spent the night in a motel, had a hot shower, felt good. All she needed was that $, she thanked me and went back to wherever she was. That never happened again although I have often left money out there for her if I am out of town. Those mother choices give us some solace and they help us to cope. We all have our ways of surviving the unthinkable. Now my daughter is, at least for today, living in a nice home with a friend of hers who vowed to help her get on her feet. For today, she is safe. As we all know, that could change in an instant..............or not.............But, I just can't take that ride on her roller coaster anymore. You have all the necessary tools, you have a wonderful, positive, realistic attitude which is bolstered by your spiritual beliefs.........hang in there COM, we're right here with you. Sending you caring wishes and gentle hugs............... [/QUOTE]
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