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Harsh words and a tough order-how do we play this?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 22120" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Rats! Its now or never! Believe me if he has the same attitude</p><p>after his 18th birthday (and in some cases before like Debs'boy</p><p>did) his booty is grass........and I don't mean marijuana!</p><p></p><p>A number of people on the Board who had great difficulty with</p><p>detachment used an elementary method. They wrote out sentences</p><p>to read in response to difficult child comments. Short. Simple. Truthful.</p><p>I think probably there is a post about it still around. Some</p><p>examples would be:</p><p></p><p>"Dad and I are sorry you feel that way."</p><p>"We are sure you will be able to find the best answer."</p><p>"We know you have the capability to succeed."</p><p></p><p>No extra verbage. (That's hard for me..lol..since I can talk</p><p>any subject to death!) One sentence should do!</p><p></p><p>Anticipate comments and questions, write down the answers like</p><p>it is a play. It actually IS role playing. He is playing the role of the poor lost unloved little boy who is misunderstood.</p><p>You need to star in the role of supportive BUT detached parent</p><p>of the poor lost unloved little boy. You don't have to feel</p><p>great when you say the short sentences...JUST DO IT! Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 22120, member: 35"] Rats! Its now or never! Believe me if he has the same attitude after his 18th birthday (and in some cases before like Debs'boy did) his booty is grass........and I don't mean marijuana! A number of people on the Board who had great difficulty with detachment used an elementary method. They wrote out sentences to read in response to difficult child comments. Short. Simple. Truthful. I think probably there is a post about it still around. Some examples would be: "Dad and I are sorry you feel that way." "We are sure you will be able to find the best answer." "We know you have the capability to succeed." No extra verbage. (That's hard for me..lol..since I can talk any subject to death!) One sentence should do! Anticipate comments and questions, write down the answers like it is a play. It actually IS role playing. He is playing the role of the poor lost unloved little boy who is misunderstood. You need to star in the role of supportive BUT detached parent of the poor lost unloved little boy. You don't have to feel great when you say the short sentences...JUST DO IT! Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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