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Harsh words and a tough order-how do we play this?
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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 22409" data-attributes="member: 27"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> He's always been his own worst enemy, and he just doesn't get it... </div></div></p><p></p><p>CA Mom, you've just described my difficult child, and probably many more here on the board, to a "T".</p><p></p><p>My son would get a chance or an opportunity, and blow it, knowing full well what the consequence would be. Even as a young child, I could tell him that if he did "x", the consequence would be "z", and he'd look right at me and do it anyway. It could be something as simple as, "Don't touch that; it's hot. If you touch it, you'll get burned." You guessed it. He'd touch it anyway, knowing he'd get burned. It's almost like he did it for the sake of doing it. Testing the waters, so to speak. Unfortunately with the drugging, he learned the hard way. He paid the consequences.</p><p></p><p>I am thankful for each and every good day my son has had since he turned things around, trust me. It was a rough road, and it wasn't easy. We stayed on him, we forced him into treatment when he was younger, we even signed him in against his will into a psychiatric hospital. Those were some pretty dark times. But I know that I did everything I could to help him. He didn't think so at the time, I'm sure, but he does understand now.</p><p></p><p>Your son knows you love him. Don't let him manipulate you into feeling badly or into feeling like he's questioning your love for him. You simply tell him that you love him so much and that's why you're doing everything humanly possible to help him help himself. </p><p></p><p>You sound like you've come to terms with him being in this program, and that you agree with the do to get. Following through by telling him no won't be easy - but again, know in your heart and your head that you're doing it because you do love him so much.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 22409, member: 27"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> [b] [/b] He's always been his own worst enemy, and he just doesn't get it... </div></div> CA Mom, you've just described my difficult child, and probably many more here on the board, to a "T". My son would get a chance or an opportunity, and blow it, knowing full well what the consequence would be. Even as a young child, I could tell him that if he did "x", the consequence would be "z", and he'd look right at me and do it anyway. It could be something as simple as, "Don't touch that; it's hot. If you touch it, you'll get burned." You guessed it. He'd touch it anyway, knowing he'd get burned. It's almost like he did it for the sake of doing it. Testing the waters, so to speak. Unfortunately with the drugging, he learned the hard way. He paid the consequences. I am thankful for each and every good day my son has had since he turned things around, trust me. It was a rough road, and it wasn't easy. We stayed on him, we forced him into treatment when he was younger, we even signed him in against his will into a psychiatric hospital. Those were some pretty dark times. But I know that I did everything I could to help him. He didn't think so at the time, I'm sure, but he does understand now. Your son knows you love him. Don't let him manipulate you into feeling badly or into feeling like he's questioning your love for him. You simply tell him that you love him so much and that's why you're doing everything humanly possible to help him help himself. You sound like you've come to terms with him being in this program, and that you agree with the do to get. Following through by telling him no won't be easy - but again, know in your heart and your head that you're doing it because you do love him so much. Sending hugs, Deb [/QUOTE]
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