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Harsh words and a tough order-how do we play this?
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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 23306" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>DDD, when my son was in Juvie, he bounced back and forth between </p><p>wanting us and his grandparents to visit to not wanting us to. I felt, at the time, that he really needed to feel that we would drop everything to be there for him, despite his current lodgings, although we did draw the line at asking my 80-something-year-old parents to accompany us. </p><p></p><p>Now, I'm not much feeling that way because I'm starting to believe that it's not so much that, because of his nature, he just can't conform but rather chooses not to in favor of "being myself." And, what's really strange is that he's TOLD me this in so many words several times, but I've never wanted to believe it and felt that he was just blustering. Now, I'm not so sure.</p><p></p><p>What he hopes to gain from this oppositional behavior, especially in the setting of a group home, I simply can't figure out. I think there's at least some degree of immaturity and wishful thinking in that he thinks the worst simply can't happen to him. in my opinion, it couldn't get much worse than being in a group home with the prospect of being sent back to Juvie in the near future if he doesn't get with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 23306, member: 1835"] DDD, when my son was in Juvie, he bounced back and forth between wanting us and his grandparents to visit to not wanting us to. I felt, at the time, that he really needed to feel that we would drop everything to be there for him, despite his current lodgings, although we did draw the line at asking my 80-something-year-old parents to accompany us. Now, I'm not much feeling that way because I'm starting to believe that it's not so much that, because of his nature, he just can't conform but rather chooses not to in favor of "being myself." And, what's really strange is that he's TOLD me this in so many words several times, but I've never wanted to believe it and felt that he was just blustering. Now, I'm not so sure. What he hopes to gain from this oppositional behavior, especially in the setting of a group home, I simply can't figure out. I think there's at least some degree of immaturity and wishful thinking in that he thinks the worst simply can't happen to him. in my opinion, it couldn't get much worse than being in a group home with the prospect of being sent back to Juvie in the near future if he doesn't get with it. [/QUOTE]
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