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Has a family members mental illness induced a form of PTSD for you?
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 298057" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I don't think you're becoming a hermit, I think you're asserting yourself. Maybe it's because I have PTSD, too, and have found it easier to measure the value of my relationships with people against the grief and drama that they cause me. I just can't have the stress in my life anymore.</p><p></p><p>It is difficult to keep the homefires burning, especially when it is only a glowing ember rather than a raging inferno. It's easier to put the fire out. I don't know about your set-up, but my phone has a selection of ringtones on it that I use for various family members. That way when I hear it I can know who it is without even having to look at the caller ID. It gives me that immediate knowledge of who is trying to reach me, and maybe I just plain don't answer. Maybe I call them back later.</p><p></p><p>I know you feel like a shut-in right now because of your neighbor. But once that period in your life is over with, you don't have to feel shut in if you don't want to be around the fruitcakes of the world. You do not owe the fruitcakes of the world anything. They're all looking after themselves and trying to s-uc-k the life out of your when they come to you for your advice and fixing up. I don't think that there's any shame in saying "I'm looking after me and mine now, and I will choose the people I want to be around based upon their stability and ability to contribute to the relationship". That doesn't mean that sometimes your friends don't need help, they do. And you help them on your terms. It means that you don't have to grind your teeth and stay awake all night or drug yourself to sleep because you dread contact with them.</p><p></p><p>JMHO.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 298057, member: 99"] I don't think you're becoming a hermit, I think you're asserting yourself. Maybe it's because I have PTSD, too, and have found it easier to measure the value of my relationships with people against the grief and drama that they cause me. I just can't have the stress in my life anymore. It is difficult to keep the homefires burning, especially when it is only a glowing ember rather than a raging inferno. It's easier to put the fire out. I don't know about your set-up, but my phone has a selection of ringtones on it that I use for various family members. That way when I hear it I can know who it is without even having to look at the caller ID. It gives me that immediate knowledge of who is trying to reach me, and maybe I just plain don't answer. Maybe I call them back later. I know you feel like a shut-in right now because of your neighbor. But once that period in your life is over with, you don't have to feel shut in if you don't want to be around the fruitcakes of the world. You do not owe the fruitcakes of the world anything. They're all looking after themselves and trying to s-uc-k the life out of your when they come to you for your advice and fixing up. I don't think that there's any shame in saying "I'm looking after me and mine now, and I will choose the people I want to be around based upon their stability and ability to contribute to the relationship". That doesn't mean that sometimes your friends don't need help, they do. And you help them on your terms. It means that you don't have to grind your teeth and stay awake all night or drug yourself to sleep because you dread contact with them. JMHO. [/QUOTE]
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