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Has a family members mental illness induced a form of PTSD for you?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 298151" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I was in therapy for a long time, several different times actually.</p><p></p><p>It was as a child in care that I was treated in therapy to cope with my mother being actively ill rather than helping in maybe more constructive ways. As an adult, when I've see a therapist, they've been very helpful and assisted me in a level of detachment that I felt was healthy while also helping me learn it was okay for me to say no, to walk away, to see that as you said, adults make choices. Many choose to try to live the best they can, others turn their backs and do nothing to be proactive with their own mental health. I surely can't change my mother or anyone, but I've worked hard to change myself and my reactions to them. I really feel I've done all I can do via therapy. Its in my head, what is healthy for me, what I can and/or should take, what I can't and/or shouldn't take from people, etc. I don't rule out therapy again if I felt it would help me, as it stands, I really at this point feel its just a matter of me finding my own happy medium and ending the irrational guilt about living life my own way and leaving others to their own devices, even if they choose self destruction and a really rotten miserable quality of life.</p><p></p><p>I've always been a person who found solace in being a bit of a home body, but I do know that I've grown more introverted and less likely to try to make long term or really close friends. I do know I have learned to wish that telephones didn't exist. I truly am looking forward to S/O posting out, just so we can all start new someplace. The family that are toxic to me ALL live here. I'll miss the family and friends that enhance my life once we are moved, but I will definitly enjoy being away from toxicity. I guess I'll learn when we move and get settled if this is a permanent thing. I'm hoping I can relax with others, new people, more once I'm living somewhere away from all of this. A bonus is my mother has no long distance on her phone, nor does my brother. (bad credit, both of them) so calls will come from me to them at my decision and the phone won't make me cringe each time it rings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 298151, member: 4264"] I was in therapy for a long time, several different times actually. It was as a child in care that I was treated in therapy to cope with my mother being actively ill rather than helping in maybe more constructive ways. As an adult, when I've see a therapist, they've been very helpful and assisted me in a level of detachment that I felt was healthy while also helping me learn it was okay for me to say no, to walk away, to see that as you said, adults make choices. Many choose to try to live the best they can, others turn their backs and do nothing to be proactive with their own mental health. I surely can't change my mother or anyone, but I've worked hard to change myself and my reactions to them. I really feel I've done all I can do via therapy. Its in my head, what is healthy for me, what I can and/or should take, what I can't and/or shouldn't take from people, etc. I don't rule out therapy again if I felt it would help me, as it stands, I really at this point feel its just a matter of me finding my own happy medium and ending the irrational guilt about living life my own way and leaving others to their own devices, even if they choose self destruction and a really rotten miserable quality of life. I've always been a person who found solace in being a bit of a home body, but I do know that I've grown more introverted and less likely to try to make long term or really close friends. I do know I have learned to wish that telephones didn't exist. I truly am looking forward to S/O posting out, just so we can all start new someplace. The family that are toxic to me ALL live here. I'll miss the family and friends that enhance my life once we are moved, but I will definitly enjoy being away from toxicity. I guess I'll learn when we move and get settled if this is a permanent thing. I'm hoping I can relax with others, new people, more once I'm living somewhere away from all of this. A bonus is my mother has no long distance on her phone, nor does my brother. (bad credit, both of them) so calls will come from me to them at my decision and the phone won't make me cringe each time it rings. [/QUOTE]
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