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has anyone moved to give their difficult child a new start?
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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 388863"><p>difficult children find other difficult children because for the most part it's the only place they feel they fit in. The "normal" kids aren't too accepting of oddness. I've noticed a lot of us parents here are grown difficult children ourselves, and where are we? We're here, online, seeking out others like ourselves with similar issues to deal with, even if those issues mostly involve raising the next generation of difficult children. Seems difficult children (no matter what stripe) are also on a spectrum, so I see it not as a matter of pointing my difficult child towards the "norms" and saying "Act like them" but showing her those who are (or are suspected of having been) difficult children that really made something of themselves, like Temple Gradin, Edison, Einstein, etc., and encouraging her to make friends across all lines so long as they're not encouraging or inducing bad behavior. Mavericks and free thinkers are needed in a society, a status quo doesn't last when the rest of world is changing, I just expect her to keep her behavior within legal limits. Of course, in this household, most "norms" are referred to as "sheep" i.e. "Don't be a sheep, get all the facts and make your own opinion and choices. Sometimes the right choices aren't the popular ones."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 388863"] difficult children find other difficult children because for the most part it's the only place they feel they fit in. The "normal" kids aren't too accepting of oddness. I've noticed a lot of us parents here are grown difficult children ourselves, and where are we? We're here, online, seeking out others like ourselves with similar issues to deal with, even if those issues mostly involve raising the next generation of difficult children. Seems difficult children (no matter what stripe) are also on a spectrum, so I see it not as a matter of pointing my difficult child towards the "norms" and saying "Act like them" but showing her those who are (or are suspected of having been) difficult children that really made something of themselves, like Temple Gradin, Edison, Einstein, etc., and encouraging her to make friends across all lines so long as they're not encouraging or inducing bad behavior. Mavericks and free thinkers are needed in a society, a status quo doesn't last when the rest of world is changing, I just expect her to keep her behavior within legal limits. Of course, in this household, most "norms" are referred to as "sheep" i.e. "Don't be a sheep, get all the facts and make your own opinion and choices. Sometimes the right choices aren't the popular ones." [/QUOTE]
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