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<blockquote data-quote="Saundra" data-source="post: 758832" data-attributes="member: 21847"><p>My 12 year old is the same way. I told his counselor that if his father treated me the way the child does they would call it Domestic Violence and try to get me to move out! It has often felt like the counselors (he is charming) and other people think I exaggerate his behavior, or its just a phase but its a 12 year phase at this point. To his credit he has a fantastic sense of humor. My son does not appear to be malicious at this point nor is he violent. Its hard to get help because his test scores are too good for IEP, and his behavior is not violent enough for the police to be called. </p><p>Treatments so far: Counseling, graduated at age 7, Back to counseling 2018, 504 Plan at school ( not during Covid of course) Group Therapy in afternoons at an intense outpatient facility (probably more to give me a break and him from home) Neuro Feedback and QEEG testing. </p><p></p><p>However, he has stolen tons of money from us via sneaking our debit cards, buying things online, like V bucks for Fortnite <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> so not things we can return. Once confronted he always says he feels bad. He promises to do better, but he lies and any chance he gets he will break the rules or sneak to steal things out of my bedroom or his sisters. He once stole 2 dollars out of my change bin in the car, and when I was looking for it he even helped me look for where those quarters must have gone. </p><p></p><p>His counselor referred us to a book called P.E.T, Parent Effectiveness Training handbook. We have just started it but some reviews appear promising. He argues and screams in my face daily. Keeping cool is hard for his father and I but last night he sat down to dinner and said "I am sorry I was yelling at you, I will try harder to not do it so much tomorrow" on his own. We were not lecturing, or anything he just realized it was out of hand. He said when he yells at us and throws stuff is is like a release and then he feels better. But then he stayed up in his room until after midnight banging around because he never wants to go to sleep so we don't get to either....</p><p></p><p>Good Luck getting through this. I hope you are able to find something that at least helps you get through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Saundra, post: 758832, member: 21847"] My 12 year old is the same way. I told his counselor that if his father treated me the way the child does they would call it Domestic Violence and try to get me to move out! It has often felt like the counselors (he is charming) and other people think I exaggerate his behavior, or its just a phase but its a 12 year phase at this point. To his credit he has a fantastic sense of humor. My son does not appear to be malicious at this point nor is he violent. Its hard to get help because his test scores are too good for IEP, and his behavior is not violent enough for the police to be called. Treatments so far: Counseling, graduated at age 7, Back to counseling 2018, 504 Plan at school ( not during Covid of course) Group Therapy in afternoons at an intense outpatient facility (probably more to give me a break and him from home) Neuro Feedback and QEEG testing. However, he has stolen tons of money from us via sneaking our debit cards, buying things online, like V bucks for Fortnite :mad: so not things we can return. Once confronted he always says he feels bad. He promises to do better, but he lies and any chance he gets he will break the rules or sneak to steal things out of my bedroom or his sisters. He once stole 2 dollars out of my change bin in the car, and when I was looking for it he even helped me look for where those quarters must have gone. His counselor referred us to a book called P.E.T, Parent Effectiveness Training handbook. We have just started it but some reviews appear promising. He argues and screams in my face daily. Keeping cool is hard for his father and I but last night he sat down to dinner and said "I am sorry I was yelling at you, I will try harder to not do it so much tomorrow" on his own. We were not lecturing, or anything he just realized it was out of hand. He said when he yells at us and throws stuff is is like a release and then he feels better. But then he stayed up in his room until after midnight banging around because he never wants to go to sleep so we don't get to either.... Good Luck getting through this. I hope you are able to find something that at least helps you get through. [/QUOTE]
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