Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Have I done a good or bad thing?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 121561" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I went through something similar with Dude in 7th grade. A little girl on the playground had gotten a new purse for good grades. She liked my son. In typical middle school horseplay she came up behind my son and belted him in the back with her purse. It left a mark. He got up, chased her and told her not to do it again. She giggled, snuck up behind him and belted him again, except this time Dudes classmates told him she was doing it, and he turned around, grabbed the purse - did the tug o war - the strap broke, she fell down. She was laughed at by all the boys standing around. </p><p></p><p>She got up and went to the playground monitor crying that Dude broke her brand new purse that her daddy just got her for good grades and then proceeded to tell the principal (who already had it out for dude) that he laughed when she fell. </p><p></p><p>My son had NO idea what was going on - all I know is he was taken out of class, handcuffed, and hauled to some office building in another town and we were told he had been "detained". We went there - and before my son could even tell his side of the story - they had jerked him out of class and thrown cuffs on him and hauled him to this place. </p><p></p><p>When we got there - the lady was in charge of the arbitration program. We had to go 3 times to this redundant class with this man - to avoid prosecution. I went back to the school after I talked to some of the other kids that were there and demanded that SHE be brought in to the office with her father for the truth, and possibly assault charges on MY son - if this is how they wanted to play it. </p><p></p><p>The principal pretty much let me know at that time - that he would not. That if my son even put his nose out of joint he would have him taken to jail. My son hadn't caused any trouble OUTSIDE of the self contained class. So this was just unreal to us. We went to arbitration - and it was basically 1st strike - second strike is court and probation and third strike is arrest and Department of Juvenile Justice. </p><p></p><p>We even contacted the Father of the girl to see just what in the H was his problem - did he want us to replace the purse, did he know his daughter had used it as a weapon? And the Father told us - he was sorry that he wasn't sure what his daughter had said for us to have to go through all this trouble - then he found out via his daughter that she liked my son, and he didn't return the feelings she' hit him. Then they struggled, the purse broke she was afraid she was in trouble with him so she told the principal that my son pushed her and then ripped her purse apart so her Dad wouldn't know. </p><p></p><p>And that's what I think about principals and other kids who seemingly never ever get in trouble and embellish their stories because they are afraid - </p><p></p><p>I'd go to their parents and ask them to ask their kids what they said and if it's true that your son is being a bully - handle it. If not then I would ask the parents to come to the school with you and straighten this **** out. </p><p></p><p>Grade school politics - are bunk. And I don't give a hang what anyone thinks - My son was ALWAYS guilty and had to prove his innocence time and again because KIDS are not DUMB - they knew that my kid acted out in class - so who better to pin it on ??? </p><p></p><p>Send the registered letter with his file - but don't expect to get ALL of it without a court order. They can take things out - they SURE did with my kids file. Maybe you should go there yourself and offer to make copies - then return it? </p><p></p><p>Sorry for you really - And the next time that a teacher asks you what are you going to do about (this this and this) tell her "I'll take it under advisement" don't say "I'm not going to do anything." (I'm not going to do anything is a LOT nicer than what I've said in the past) My kid got framed a lot. I think in some ways he felt like if he was going to get framed for junk - he may as well do some of that junk. Our school stinks - still does. </p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 121561, member: 4964"] I went through something similar with Dude in 7th grade. A little girl on the playground had gotten a new purse for good grades. She liked my son. In typical middle school horseplay she came up behind my son and belted him in the back with her purse. It left a mark. He got up, chased her and told her not to do it again. She giggled, snuck up behind him and belted him again, except this time Dudes classmates told him she was doing it, and he turned around, grabbed the purse - did the tug o war - the strap broke, she fell down. She was laughed at by all the boys standing around. She got up and went to the playground monitor crying that Dude broke her brand new purse that her daddy just got her for good grades and then proceeded to tell the principal (who already had it out for dude) that he laughed when she fell. My son had NO idea what was going on - all I know is he was taken out of class, handcuffed, and hauled to some office building in another town and we were told he had been "detained". We went there - and before my son could even tell his side of the story - they had jerked him out of class and thrown cuffs on him and hauled him to this place. When we got there - the lady was in charge of the arbitration program. We had to go 3 times to this redundant class with this man - to avoid prosecution. I went back to the school after I talked to some of the other kids that were there and demanded that SHE be brought in to the office with her father for the truth, and possibly assault charges on MY son - if this is how they wanted to play it. The principal pretty much let me know at that time - that he would not. That if my son even put his nose out of joint he would have him taken to jail. My son hadn't caused any trouble OUTSIDE of the self contained class. So this was just unreal to us. We went to arbitration - and it was basically 1st strike - second strike is court and probation and third strike is arrest and Department of Juvenile Justice. We even contacted the Father of the girl to see just what in the H was his problem - did he want us to replace the purse, did he know his daughter had used it as a weapon? And the Father told us - he was sorry that he wasn't sure what his daughter had said for us to have to go through all this trouble - then he found out via his daughter that she liked my son, and he didn't return the feelings she' hit him. Then they struggled, the purse broke she was afraid she was in trouble with him so she told the principal that my son pushed her and then ripped her purse apart so her Dad wouldn't know. And that's what I think about principals and other kids who seemingly never ever get in trouble and embellish their stories because they are afraid - I'd go to their parents and ask them to ask their kids what they said and if it's true that your son is being a bully - handle it. If not then I would ask the parents to come to the school with you and straighten this **** out. Grade school politics - are bunk. And I don't give a hang what anyone thinks - My son was ALWAYS guilty and had to prove his innocence time and again because KIDS are not DUMB - they knew that my kid acted out in class - so who better to pin it on ??? Send the registered letter with his file - but don't expect to get ALL of it without a court order. They can take things out - they SURE did with my kids file. Maybe you should go there yourself and offer to make copies - then return it? Sorry for you really - And the next time that a teacher asks you what are you going to do about (this this and this) tell her "I'll take it under advisement" don't say "I'm not going to do anything." (I'm not going to do anything is a LOT nicer than what I've said in the past) My kid got framed a lot. I think in some ways he felt like if he was going to get framed for junk - he may as well do some of that junk. Our school stinks - still does. Star [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Have I done a good or bad thing?
Top