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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 289800" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>You know, it gets a little outrageous when there is child support, plus difficult child's restitution, plus I can't work full time hours half the time (which means I lose pay plus benefits like medication insurance and is how I lost the job) due to court dates, meetings, mental health care appts, etc, FOR difficult child. No one person can cover all of that.</p><p></p><p>I remember asking difficult child's probation officer last December if she preferred that I supervise him 24/7 and take him to appts, or go to work so I could continue to support him and pay his restitution and put food on the table. She, and her super, told me that was my problem, not their's. This is where bio-parents get the shaft. We get no assitance- either financially or with help for the kid. We just get blamed when it becomes impossible to do everything that they are requiring. Then we get taken to court and trashed and punished.</p><p></p><p>As far as difficult child's father- until/unless paternity is estableished, he legally does not have a ffather, WSM, so there has never been child support paid by him or to me. </p><p></p><p>No state agency has ever gone after him to establish paternity because the only agency that's ever technically been involved is Department of Juvenile Justice. Now, if DSS is involved, they might but I doubt it because difficult child's father is out of state, and never paid child support for his first child and doesn't work legitimately so I doubt they would spend the time and money to 1) go out of state and find him, 2) chase him around enough to actually fight thru court for a blood test, 3) stay on his butt enough when there is little or nothing to be gained financially from him.</p><p></p><p>They might write down they they are looking for him, and maybe even run an ad in the paper like they would be required to do if there was a custody issue. I doubt they will do anything more- particualrly since even though I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is the only person that could be the father, they only have my word to go on.</p><p></p><p>I was reading the finer print on this standard form and it talks about parents having to cover costs for different things in a variety of cicumstances- some that don't apply to me, it's just general info. I can understand having to pay CS and making a parent reimburse attny's fees if a court appointment attny has been assigned to a parent or juvenile, then they find out that the parent really could afford one. But, I don't understand that a court can appoint a GAL for a child at their discretion, then make the parent reimburse them for the GAL's fees. Fortunately, that one hasn't come up yet, but my feeling is, if they appointment a GAL, they should cover that cost. I can't tell you what difficult child's has cost me, indirectly, and she has never done one thing that has helped difficult child at all. I would resent the carp out of it if I had to reimburse her fees.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 289800, member: 3699"] You know, it gets a little outrageous when there is child support, plus difficult child's restitution, plus I can't work full time hours half the time (which means I lose pay plus benefits like medication insurance and is how I lost the job) due to court dates, meetings, mental health care appts, etc, FOR difficult child. No one person can cover all of that. I remember asking difficult child's probation officer last December if she preferred that I supervise him 24/7 and take him to appts, or go to work so I could continue to support him and pay his restitution and put food on the table. She, and her super, told me that was my problem, not their's. This is where bio-parents get the shaft. We get no assitance- either financially or with help for the kid. We just get blamed when it becomes impossible to do everything that they are requiring. Then we get taken to court and trashed and punished. As far as difficult child's father- until/unless paternity is estableished, he legally does not have a ffather, WSM, so there has never been child support paid by him or to me. No state agency has ever gone after him to establish paternity because the only agency that's ever technically been involved is Department of Juvenile Justice. Now, if DSS is involved, they might but I doubt it because difficult child's father is out of state, and never paid child support for his first child and doesn't work legitimately so I doubt they would spend the time and money to 1) go out of state and find him, 2) chase him around enough to actually fight thru court for a blood test, 3) stay on his butt enough when there is little or nothing to be gained financially from him. They might write down they they are looking for him, and maybe even run an ad in the paper like they would be required to do if there was a custody issue. I doubt they will do anything more- particualrly since even though I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is the only person that could be the father, they only have my word to go on. I was reading the finer print on this standard form and it talks about parents having to cover costs for different things in a variety of cicumstances- some that don't apply to me, it's just general info. I can understand having to pay CS and making a parent reimburse attny's fees if a court appointment attny has been assigned to a parent or juvenile, then they find out that the parent really could afford one. But, I don't understand that a court can appoint a GAL for a child at their discretion, then make the parent reimburse them for the GAL's fees. Fortunately, that one hasn't come up yet, but my feeling is, if they appointment a GAL, they should cover that cost. I can't tell you what difficult child's has cost me, indirectly, and she has never done one thing that has helped difficult child at all. I would resent the carp out of it if I had to reimburse her fees. [/QUOTE]
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