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<blockquote data-quote="scaredofhim" data-source="post: 620458" data-attributes="member: 17051"><p>We had SS this weekend and he seemed to be in a depressed cycle with his bipolar. There were no meltdowns or defiance, but he slept a lot. When he wasn't on the laptop playing video games that is. He talked husband into getting him some "battle" funds for this violent game that he plays, and since he was "behaving" husband did that for him. Which I feel is a mistake, because it just feeds SS's video game addiction, and because SS extorts money from bio mom all the time for video games by threatening her, and I don't want him to think that he is going to start doing that with husband and I. husband and I had discussed it awhile back, and we agreed that we would not purchase him funds for the game, or buy him anything whatsoever as a gift that relates to video games in any way. So I was a little upset that husband did that for him this weekend after we had agreed not to but I didn't say anything. He said that he wouldn't do it again, just wanted to do it this one time as a reward to SS for being "good." We did have an issue with hygiene this weekend as far as him messing up the toilet...urine and feces smeared all over it, and SS swears he doesn't know how it gets all over and under the toilet seat. He also didn't clean it up, I had to do it. On Thursday evening, we did have a very interesting phone call from the father and stepmother of SS's half brother. Bio mom has custody of both boys, and the half brother's dad doesn't like some things that are going on in regards to how bio mom is taking care of his son's mental issues (half brother has bipolar, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), ODD, and Tourettes) so we did compare notes. He told us that SS's in home therapist called them and wanted to know if they were on board with the in home therapy, even though the therapy isn't for SS's half brother at all. They found that strange. They the therapist told them that bio mom said that husband gives her no help with SS and that he is really not in his life much at all. Well of course that really angered husband and I very much because it isn't true. The other set of parents think that bio mom is trying to get both boys labeled as disabled to try and get Social Security Disability for them. What is strange is that the therapist didn't call husband at all and he is the father! I guess bio mom has her convinced that husband is not in his life and doesn't help. And we have been to every single psychiatrist's appointment, and have SS every other weekend and are very involved in his life. Anyway, I am rambling, sorry. I have been sick with a bad cold all weekend and am feeling very frustrated this morning. husband just thinks it so wonderful that SS didn't give us any trouble this weekend and was bragging how good (besides messing up the toilet) he was, which worries me because husband takes it as a sign that maybe he really isn't mentally ill, and that just isn't the case. He is just in the depressive cycle of his bipolar and sullen and quiet right now. He forgets that just last Saturday SS had a rage and didn't want to go to the psychiatrist appointment. and we just found out from SS this weekend that bio mom charged him 200.00 worth of video game related stuff on her credit card. We asked him when she did that and he told us right after they got back from the dr. appointment last Saturday. And husband said to him, "so your mom promised you that so you would go to the dr. appointment." and he replied, "yep!" And I said to him, " and you don't see anything wrong with doing that?' and he said no he didn't. She spent another 200.00 on him for the same thing recently after a meltdown. And the child has taken her credit card out of her purse and charged things himself! So like I keep saying, SS is a volcano that is going to erupt at our house eventually, just a matter of time....Ugh <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scaredofhim, post: 620458, member: 17051"] We had SS this weekend and he seemed to be in a depressed cycle with his bipolar. There were no meltdowns or defiance, but he slept a lot. When he wasn't on the laptop playing video games that is. He talked husband into getting him some "battle" funds for this violent game that he plays, and since he was "behaving" husband did that for him. Which I feel is a mistake, because it just feeds SS's video game addiction, and because SS extorts money from bio mom all the time for video games by threatening her, and I don't want him to think that he is going to start doing that with husband and I. husband and I had discussed it awhile back, and we agreed that we would not purchase him funds for the game, or buy him anything whatsoever as a gift that relates to video games in any way. So I was a little upset that husband did that for him this weekend after we had agreed not to but I didn't say anything. He said that he wouldn't do it again, just wanted to do it this one time as a reward to SS for being "good." We did have an issue with hygiene this weekend as far as him messing up the toilet...urine and feces smeared all over it, and SS swears he doesn't know how it gets all over and under the toilet seat. He also didn't clean it up, I had to do it. On Thursday evening, we did have a very interesting phone call from the father and stepmother of SS's half brother. Bio mom has custody of both boys, and the half brother's dad doesn't like some things that are going on in regards to how bio mom is taking care of his son's mental issues (half brother has bipolar, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), ODD, and Tourettes) so we did compare notes. He told us that SS's in home therapist called them and wanted to know if they were on board with the in home therapy, even though the therapy isn't for SS's half brother at all. They found that strange. They the therapist told them that bio mom said that husband gives her no help with SS and that he is really not in his life much at all. Well of course that really angered husband and I very much because it isn't true. The other set of parents think that bio mom is trying to get both boys labeled as disabled to try and get Social Security Disability for them. What is strange is that the therapist didn't call husband at all and he is the father! I guess bio mom has her convinced that husband is not in his life and doesn't help. And we have been to every single psychiatrist's appointment, and have SS every other weekend and are very involved in his life. Anyway, I am rambling, sorry. I have been sick with a bad cold all weekend and am feeling very frustrated this morning. husband just thinks it so wonderful that SS didn't give us any trouble this weekend and was bragging how good (besides messing up the toilet) he was, which worries me because husband takes it as a sign that maybe he really isn't mentally ill, and that just isn't the case. He is just in the depressive cycle of his bipolar and sullen and quiet right now. He forgets that just last Saturday SS had a rage and didn't want to go to the psychiatrist appointment. and we just found out from SS this weekend that bio mom charged him 200.00 worth of video game related stuff on her credit card. We asked him when she did that and he told us right after they got back from the dr. appointment last Saturday. And husband said to him, "so your mom promised you that so you would go to the dr. appointment." and he replied, "yep!" And I said to him, " and you don't see anything wrong with doing that?' and he said no he didn't. She spent another 200.00 on him for the same thing recently after a meltdown. And the child has taken her credit card out of her purse and charged things himself! So like I keep saying, SS is a volcano that is going to erupt at our house eventually, just a matter of time....Ugh :( [/QUOTE]
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