Hi all. Hope all is well or better for you. My dad has my son while I'm venting and my daughter is throwing a fit! Besides my issues with my son that Ill get to in a minute. I'm having normal Pre-teen issues with my daughter. Shes 12, obsessed with the computer, esp Zat chats, now twitter and photo bucket which I told her all no to and explained the dangers on them. I gave into zats if she gave me all her screen names, she refused so I asked for passwords she blew. Now shes "meeting friends online" wanting to send a card. Also I asked her to write a letter to Santa what SHE wants and she gave a letter to my dad this morning. All of sudden she asked for it and said that was to be mailed with her friends letter a second part? Huh? Multiple stories later ..Im confused. Y cant that girl write her own letter I asked? I know Santa she is starting to doubt but she refuses to let me make sure this girl is really a child and for me to talk to her parents. I told her no electronics and no to a dog cuz I cant trust her. I have calmly talked to her like a pal, friend, where she felt safe and comfortable to. Im still her mom first!!! I did get hurt and upset tonight telling her this and my mistakes and attitude when I was her age. I understand, except now there the internet involved. Was I right or wrong? Ok, now on to the reason for this forum, my son. He still gets angry sometimes easlily and sometimes still kicks the doors.. throws or break stuff. But not like it was before. Thank goodness!! He does get happy faces but also sad and :/ faces like that one. Reasons, for not completing work, talking, not listening mainly. Almost always talks in Church which I know as well as his teacher knows. With his work she says he needs to pay attention and listen to instructions and do the work. So I told the Medical assistant while we were there for his usual bat of yearly bronchitis visits ( as a comment saying wish u could get him to sit and complete his work like u get him him better for his health) and she said does his teacher complain? Hows homework? Well, I told her homework can be quick but messy but usually can last up to two or three hours for 3-7 words to write in order, or/and 4 times and certain days sentences with those words. She asked if hes hyper, I said well, most of the time but I got used to it. So, she said sounds like ADHD. So they would interview teacher, watch him a full day or longer at school and home and interview neighbors? Really, neighbors I thought. She says some parents just cant handle a normal active kids and gave me a look and rudely said that might be your problem tho... even after I told her of his temper!! I have gotten use to my son being active. Still in Speech, Sports, plays outside etc. But she said after all tests they would give medications. I know it can help kids but I want parenting tips/support to avoid medications as long as possible or permanently. So I'm trying a little longer on my own with him as well as others to get him back on track. If not, looks like the tests will have to be done. Any advice?