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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 262160" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Jen,</p><p></p><p>You are still NEW to this job. 3 months is SOON to be able to juggle it all. After a year you will be much more able to handle it all. You still may be somewhat torn about missing dinner, so maybe those days you can have dinner right after school and a snack later?</p><p></p><p>thank you has dinner about 4:30-5:00 several days a week. Scouts are now at 5:30 and so is something else. And he just will NOT eat after 6:30 or so. Never has. So he gets dinner, even if on the fly, early. It doesn't hurt him.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise, make breakfast that important meal. Get up earlier, scramble some eggs or make muffins the night before or even just serve cereal and milk, and sit and catch up with the kids. You can make that your time to reconnect and have family time. It will go smoother if the school stuff is all ready to go and the lunches are ready and clothes laid out the night before. But it is do-able.</p><p></p><p>Or have a late night snack with the girls if you can still get them to bed after you get in. Or do early dinner with difficult child and late snack with easy child - then they EACH get special time! And you would connect with them both and still be able to meet your commitments.</p><p></p><p>(I learned these from my mom. Sometimes she had to teach night classes, or teach classes in a town 75 miles away. So we had "dinner" at whatever time worked with the rest of our schedule that semester.)</p><p></p><p>You also ahve to relax your standards some. The housework can be done a little less well, or you can have someone come in to help each week or every other week. Dinner can be planned on the weekend, and all shopping done then to save time (with food for specific meals labelled with the night and meal on the package). </p><p></p><p>Be gentler with yourself. You really don't have to do everything perfectly. And now that you are working, boyfriend and the girls need to pick up the slack. Esp where they can be responsible for themselves. Like easy child doing her own laundry (or even ALL the laundry). Give her the option of washing 2 loads every night (including folding/hanging and putting away) OR doing it all on the weekend between Sat at X am and Sun at Y pm. (My bro was doing ALL the family laundry at age 13). Depending ont he time, laundry sould be taken to the laundry room by each family member by Z time on Sat.</p><p></p><p>This is a process you are in. It is a HUGE adjustment. It is going to take more than a few months, esp with your work demands changing after you started.</p><p></p><p>Hand in there - You can do it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 262160, member: 1233"] Jen, You are still NEW to this job. 3 months is SOON to be able to juggle it all. After a year you will be much more able to handle it all. You still may be somewhat torn about missing dinner, so maybe those days you can have dinner right after school and a snack later? thank you has dinner about 4:30-5:00 several days a week. Scouts are now at 5:30 and so is something else. And he just will NOT eat after 6:30 or so. Never has. So he gets dinner, even if on the fly, early. It doesn't hurt him. Otherwise, make breakfast that important meal. Get up earlier, scramble some eggs or make muffins the night before or even just serve cereal and milk, and sit and catch up with the kids. You can make that your time to reconnect and have family time. It will go smoother if the school stuff is all ready to go and the lunches are ready and clothes laid out the night before. But it is do-able. Or have a late night snack with the girls if you can still get them to bed after you get in. Or do early dinner with difficult child and late snack with easy child - then they EACH get special time! And you would connect with them both and still be able to meet your commitments. (I learned these from my mom. Sometimes she had to teach night classes, or teach classes in a town 75 miles away. So we had "dinner" at whatever time worked with the rest of our schedule that semester.) You also ahve to relax your standards some. The housework can be done a little less well, or you can have someone come in to help each week or every other week. Dinner can be planned on the weekend, and all shopping done then to save time (with food for specific meals labelled with the night and meal on the package). Be gentler with yourself. You really don't have to do everything perfectly. And now that you are working, boyfriend and the girls need to pick up the slack. Esp where they can be responsible for themselves. Like easy child doing her own laundry (or even ALL the laundry). Give her the option of washing 2 loads every night (including folding/hanging and putting away) OR doing it all on the weekend between Sat at X am and Sun at Y pm. (My bro was doing ALL the family laundry at age 13). Depending ont he time, laundry sould be taken to the laundry room by each family member by Z time on Sat. This is a process you are in. It is a HUGE adjustment. It is going to take more than a few months, esp with your work demands changing after you started. Hand in there - You can do it! [/QUOTE]
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