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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 545253" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>Janet has shared some great ideas on helping to seperate them and give your boy some space. I don't like any response that leads to power struggles especially when kids are bigger than us and can make life even more miserable. The only ' consequence ' I recommend is explaining to the kid , that if she is determined to try and bully you and her brother instead of talking things through and working things out together so every body's concerns and needs are being addressed , you are unable to take care of her - either she moves in with her dad , and if he can't , the social services will take care of you </p><p></p><p>I think you should revisit the incident with her in a non-blaming way , being empathic and try to see how the incident could have played itself out in a different way . Brainstorm some solutions </p><p></p><p>I recommend mentors , older sister ,buddy-tutors for your kids . It would be great if you had a third party who you could call to help facilate collaborative problem solving - your daughter could call to get help if her brother is bugging her etc </p><p></p><p>Not easy </p><p></p><p>AllanKatz-parentingislearning</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 545253, member: 10"] Hi, Janet has shared some great ideas on helping to seperate them and give your boy some space. I don't like any response that leads to power struggles especially when kids are bigger than us and can make life even more miserable. The only ' consequence ' I recommend is explaining to the kid , that if she is determined to try and bully you and her brother instead of talking things through and working things out together so every body's concerns and needs are being addressed , you are unable to take care of her - either she moves in with her dad , and if he can't , the social services will take care of you I think you should revisit the incident with her in a non-blaming way , being empathic and try to see how the incident could have played itself out in a different way . Brainstorm some solutions I recommend mentors , older sister ,buddy-tutors for your kids . It would be great if you had a third party who you could call to help facilate collaborative problem solving - your daughter could call to get help if her brother is bugging her etc Not easy AllanKatz-parentingislearning [/QUOTE]
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