momslove
Battle Weary
I don't know what to do. Just when I think I've got everything all figured out, and know what I need to do, everything comes crashing down around me.
difficult child just returned to school after a 3 day 'out of school placement' or whatever they called it, after getting into trouble last week after it was discovered he was had not done his online assignments for 2 months. He had to catch up at home before he could return after the 3 days. He did it, we met with teachers/principal yesterday morning about it, and all was well. Or so I thought.
This morning started out great. Had a talk with difficult child, reinforced everything we'd discussed yesterday and previous days. Good talk, we were (or seemed to be) on the same page about everything. Told him he could talk to me if he felt things weren't going so great at school (problems with teachers, whatever). difficult child seemed to feel good about everything, and went off to school with a smile on his face.
Two hours later, I get the first call. Not only did difficult child barely do any work yesterday, he wasn't getting a good start today. Got the details, called husband and let him know. School calls again, asks what husband says, etc. None of us have a clue what to do, because even though it is not a constant issue, it's not the first time it's happened, either. We agree on how to handle it, eventually, and hang up.
Then I got the third call. difficult child had gotten frustrated, hit the desk a couple times, and somehow manages to break the computer screen in the process. They weren't sure how that happened when we talked... he'd hit the desk, then all of a sudden he's turning around saying it was broken, and he didn't mean to do it, it was an accident.
That's all I know so far. They had to let me go to deal with some other thing, and said they'd call back soon as they could. That was about 45 minutes ago... still waiting to hear back from the school.
And all this happens on the heels of our decision to take difficult child off the medications for good, since it (obviously) wasn't helping to any degree for keeping difficult child focused and on task with his assignments. Now I'm wondering if it was a mistake to allow him to run out and be off his medications. (He had been taking 40mg Vyvanse once a day until about 2-3 weeks ago.) I just don't understand what happened, though. difficult child has not (so far as I know) been pulling stunts like this in a very long time. Having a disrespectful tongue, sure, but not hitting the desk and/or damaging school property. I really don't know why he would do such a thing, and I'm just so upset. It doesn't help that I was up all night researching and trying to prepare for our upcoming IEP meeting, either... I can barely think straight at this point and I'm hardly prepared to deal with something like this right now.
I'm sorry, I know this probably makes no sense. I just needed to whine. I'll write more later when I know more and can be more coherent with my thoughts.
difficult child just returned to school after a 3 day 'out of school placement' or whatever they called it, after getting into trouble last week after it was discovered he was had not done his online assignments for 2 months. He had to catch up at home before he could return after the 3 days. He did it, we met with teachers/principal yesterday morning about it, and all was well. Or so I thought.
This morning started out great. Had a talk with difficult child, reinforced everything we'd discussed yesterday and previous days. Good talk, we were (or seemed to be) on the same page about everything. Told him he could talk to me if he felt things weren't going so great at school (problems with teachers, whatever). difficult child seemed to feel good about everything, and went off to school with a smile on his face.
Two hours later, I get the first call. Not only did difficult child barely do any work yesterday, he wasn't getting a good start today. Got the details, called husband and let him know. School calls again, asks what husband says, etc. None of us have a clue what to do, because even though it is not a constant issue, it's not the first time it's happened, either. We agree on how to handle it, eventually, and hang up.
Then I got the third call. difficult child had gotten frustrated, hit the desk a couple times, and somehow manages to break the computer screen in the process. They weren't sure how that happened when we talked... he'd hit the desk, then all of a sudden he's turning around saying it was broken, and he didn't mean to do it, it was an accident.
That's all I know so far. They had to let me go to deal with some other thing, and said they'd call back soon as they could. That was about 45 minutes ago... still waiting to hear back from the school.
And all this happens on the heels of our decision to take difficult child off the medications for good, since it (obviously) wasn't helping to any degree for keeping difficult child focused and on task with his assignments. Now I'm wondering if it was a mistake to allow him to run out and be off his medications. (He had been taking 40mg Vyvanse once a day until about 2-3 weeks ago.) I just don't understand what happened, though. difficult child has not (so far as I know) been pulling stunts like this in a very long time. Having a disrespectful tongue, sure, but not hitting the desk and/or damaging school property. I really don't know why he would do such a thing, and I'm just so upset. It doesn't help that I was up all night researching and trying to prepare for our upcoming IEP meeting, either... I can barely think straight at this point and I'm hardly prepared to deal with something like this right now.
I'm sorry, I know this probably makes no sense. I just needed to whine. I'll write more later when I know more and can be more coherent with my thoughts.