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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 764297" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I have had some years where I thought my son would finally find a good path he could be comfortable walking in his life.</p><p></p><p>My son started drugs early. He does have ADHD, didn't fit in at school. He is a huge people pleaser and a huge follower.</p><p></p><p>He has one life long friend that's always there for him. The friend's father is a nasty drug addict, sister is a prostitute having 2 children before age 15. Somehow, the friend was still able to say no to substance abuse and have a good life. I know the friend well, the interesting thing is my son has no contact with this friend when he's using. That's my way of knowing sometimes, lol.</p><p></p><p>I see you are a pastor's wife so I think you'll understand my views. I believe my son has his own path to follow. He has had many opportunities, he's highly intelligent, people like him, he simply can not handle responsibility. Doesn't want to is more honest.</p><p></p><p>ADHD makes it hard for the person to 'connect the dots', hard for them to plan, hard for them to understand there will be consequences. My son loves attention and bares his soul to anyone. I'm much more private. His posting pics on FB last month cutting himself makes him the center of attention. Any attention, good or bad, is better than no attention. He's exhausting, lol!</p><p></p><p>I had hoped his recent relationship would last. He finds these troubled women to 'save', yet it's me that he wants to do the supporting & financial saving!</p><p></p><p>The last one had 3 children, they were literally living on the street. Hubby and I helped them. A LOT, lol. The oldest graduated high school with honors, finished a chef program with honors, was devestated that he didn't have a food network show the first year. Gave up & is involved in a gang. I saw the indications of substance abuse in him, yet I was still devestated myself.</p><p></p><p>Hubby & I both grew up dirt poor & try to help others. We have reached an age where we can't & my. It does make me sad that my 44yo just can't get his life on track. It makes me sad knowing he may kill himself & it makes ne sad wondering what will become of him when I'm gone.</p><p></p><p>He is just found 'the one' & of course shes unemployed & his work has slowed. They're both looking for jobs. SIGH!!</p><p></p><p>It's never endibg for sure until they want it to end. My son doesn't contact me when he's using. I know from experience if they get in trouble they'll find a way to contact you. No news is good news, lol!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 764297, member: 13558"] I have had some years where I thought my son would finally find a good path he could be comfortable walking in his life. My son started drugs early. He does have ADHD, didn't fit in at school. He is a huge people pleaser and a huge follower. He has one life long friend that's always there for him. The friend's father is a nasty drug addict, sister is a prostitute having 2 children before age 15. Somehow, the friend was still able to say no to substance abuse and have a good life. I know the friend well, the interesting thing is my son has no contact with this friend when he's using. That's my way of knowing sometimes, lol. I see you are a pastor's wife so I think you'll understand my views. I believe my son has his own path to follow. He has had many opportunities, he's highly intelligent, people like him, he simply can not handle responsibility. Doesn't want to is more honest. ADHD makes it hard for the person to 'connect the dots', hard for them to plan, hard for them to understand there will be consequences. My son loves attention and bares his soul to anyone. I'm much more private. His posting pics on FB last month cutting himself makes him the center of attention. Any attention, good or bad, is better than no attention. He's exhausting, lol! I had hoped his recent relationship would last. He finds these troubled women to 'save', yet it's me that he wants to do the supporting & financial saving! The last one had 3 children, they were literally living on the street. Hubby and I helped them. A LOT, lol. The oldest graduated high school with honors, finished a chef program with honors, was devestated that he didn't have a food network show the first year. Gave up & is involved in a gang. I saw the indications of substance abuse in him, yet I was still devestated myself. Hubby & I both grew up dirt poor & try to help others. We have reached an age where we can't & my. It does make me sad that my 44yo just can't get his life on track. It makes me sad knowing he may kill himself & it makes ne sad wondering what will become of him when I'm gone. He is just found 'the one' & of course shes unemployed & his work has slowed. They're both looking for jobs. SIGH!! It's never endibg for sure until they want it to end. My son doesn't contact me when he's using. I know from experience if they get in trouble they'll find a way to contact you. No news is good news, lol! [/QUOTE]
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