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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 388281" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Shari--</p><p> </p><p>I have not walked a mile in your shoes, so please feel free to disregard my advice...</p><p> </p><p>If you're like me you totally agree with Susie's advice - except when it comes to paying for somebody else to do the chores the family should be perfectly capable of handling themselves. I hate wasting money on stupid! (No offense Susie! It's not you, it's me - I'm cheap!)</p><p> </p><p>in my humble opinion, I think you need to re-prioritize some of these household tasks. One thing that jumped out at me from your day was the garbage run. Why did that have to happen right then? Was garbage collection the next day or something? Otherwise, that seems like a job that can be both pushed off to the weekend AND delegated to your husband. A lady like yourself shouldn't be lugging 50 gallon drums of trash around anyway. </p><p> </p><p>And why is folding the laundry your job? And why would your husband have dumped all the laundry on your bed? If he didn't feel like folding it, seems to me he could have just left it in the basket...</p><p> </p><p>Which brings me to my next suggestion: re-thinking laundry. Now I understand that you may want to still be "in charge" of the washer and dryer so they don't get ruined through mis-use...but folding should not be your problem. Each family member should have their own laundry basket (or two or three) and they should bring their own laundry to the laundry room. They don't bring it - it doesn't get washed! If they have some clothes that need bleach or to be washed "delicate" or some special thing - they can sort that out using their two or three baskets. You wash it, dry it (unless you can trust somebody to properly use the machines....or use them following your explicit directions)...and hand them back their basket of clean clothes to fold and put away. No more dumping on Mom's bed! </p><p> </p><p>In my house - everyone quickly learned to get their laundry to the laundry room by "laundry day" and have everything un-knotted and pockets emptied. It only took a couple weeks of having "nothing to wear" or losing something in the wash for this lesson to sink in....I expect your family would "get it" pretty quickly, too.</p><p> </p><p>And wherever possible, I think you should delegate most of the chores this way. You do what needs your special supervision and leave the rest to others...but don't wait for them to "notice" that it needs doing - assign it to them with a consequence for not getting it done. You need to focus your attention on the important things - like your work and taking care of your children - and let the little stuff (like garbage and laundry folding) go.</p><p> </p><p>Just my two cents...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 388281, member: 6546"] Shari-- I have not walked a mile in your shoes, so please feel free to disregard my advice... If you're like me you totally agree with Susie's advice - except when it comes to paying for somebody else to do the chores the family should be perfectly capable of handling themselves. I hate wasting money on stupid! (No offense Susie! It's not you, it's me - I'm cheap!) in my humble opinion, I think you need to re-prioritize some of these household tasks. One thing that jumped out at me from your day was the garbage run. Why did that have to happen right then? Was garbage collection the next day or something? Otherwise, that seems like a job that can be both pushed off to the weekend AND delegated to your husband. A lady like yourself shouldn't be lugging 50 gallon drums of trash around anyway. And why is folding the laundry your job? And why would your husband have dumped all the laundry on your bed? If he didn't feel like folding it, seems to me he could have just left it in the basket... Which brings me to my next suggestion: re-thinking laundry. Now I understand that you may want to still be "in charge" of the washer and dryer so they don't get ruined through mis-use...but folding should not be your problem. Each family member should have their own laundry basket (or two or three) and they should bring their own laundry to the laundry room. They don't bring it - it doesn't get washed! If they have some clothes that need bleach or to be washed "delicate" or some special thing - they can sort that out using their two or three baskets. You wash it, dry it (unless you can trust somebody to properly use the machines....or use them following your explicit directions)...and hand them back their basket of clean clothes to fold and put away. No more dumping on Mom's bed! In my house - everyone quickly learned to get their laundry to the laundry room by "laundry day" and have everything un-knotted and pockets emptied. It only took a couple weeks of having "nothing to wear" or losing something in the wash for this lesson to sink in....I expect your family would "get it" pretty quickly, too. And wherever possible, I think you should delegate most of the chores this way. You do what needs your special supervision and leave the rest to others...but don't wait for them to "notice" that it needs doing - assign it to them with a consequence for not getting it done. You need to focus your attention on the important things - like your work and taking care of your children - and let the little stuff (like garbage and laundry folding) go. Just my two cents... [/QUOTE]
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