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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 152828" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Terry, </p><p> </p><p>I think you did very well. All the things you described are the same types of things we went through with Dude. Except for the part where he offers to clean up anything he ever broke. </p><p> </p><p>IMVHO I like the thought of seeking out someone who's been around the block as a therapist. I told someone this week our therapist for the last five years looked like Sigmond Freud. He as been the psychiatrist to the state prisons and in his earlier days to federal prisoners who were imprisoned inside the prison for just being too far gone. He stated no one is ever too far gone. They can be evil, but that's a whole other ballgame. </p><p> </p><p>I would like to see your son learn some venting exercises. He can be taught some very easy techniques when he's angry to use instead of throwing, breaking, and being mischevous. OUr therapist taught us the best one - and while I would NEVER do it in front of anyone you sit and tense up EVERY single muscle in your body and push your hands against say a bed under your thighs and just tense up, release, tense up 10 seconds, release 5 do it again - until you can do it for over a minute. You are physically so exhausted after you do this you can't find the anger. I'm not describing how to do it and you should ask a therapist for a demonstration and practice but it's best described like you boil out your own adreneline in a silent fit. </p><p> </p><p>Dude has other coping mechanisms that he was taught (age appropriate) and after so many years of therapy - he's actually using them. He used to HAVE to smash things for that release - but now? He has other ways of coping, much better more suitable ways. And someone told him - you know IT IS OKAY to be ANGRY - but how you react to your anger says a lot about the world you're from. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe check into some anger management classes for youths. </p><p> </p><p>Gotta love it when your own psychology speaks volumes and they speak it back to you huh?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 152828, member: 4964"] Terry, I think you did very well. All the things you described are the same types of things we went through with Dude. Except for the part where he offers to clean up anything he ever broke. IMVHO I like the thought of seeking out someone who's been around the block as a therapist. I told someone this week our therapist for the last five years looked like Sigmond Freud. He as been the psychiatrist to the state prisons and in his earlier days to federal prisoners who were imprisoned inside the prison for just being too far gone. He stated no one is ever too far gone. They can be evil, but that's a whole other ballgame. I would like to see your son learn some venting exercises. He can be taught some very easy techniques when he's angry to use instead of throwing, breaking, and being mischevous. OUr therapist taught us the best one - and while I would NEVER do it in front of anyone you sit and tense up EVERY single muscle in your body and push your hands against say a bed under your thighs and just tense up, release, tense up 10 seconds, release 5 do it again - until you can do it for over a minute. You are physically so exhausted after you do this you can't find the anger. I'm not describing how to do it and you should ask a therapist for a demonstration and practice but it's best described like you boil out your own adreneline in a silent fit. Dude has other coping mechanisms that he was taught (age appropriate) and after so many years of therapy - he's actually using them. He used to HAVE to smash things for that release - but now? He has other ways of coping, much better more suitable ways. And someone told him - you know IT IS OKAY to be ANGRY - but how you react to your anger says a lot about the world you're from. Maybe check into some anger management classes for youths. Gotta love it when your own psychology speaks volumes and they speak it back to you huh? [/QUOTE]
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