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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 152875" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>My son's relationship with-his bmom is ... shallow. She and her mother pile gifts on him once a year. Guilt Gifts, we call them. The first few times we got together for Christmas/bdays (her older son, difficult child's 1/2 bro, is one yr and one wk older than difficult child), bmom spent the whole time on her cell ph, planning out what she was going to wear to the Christmas ofc party. Hardly spoke to difficult child at all. The next 3 yrs she skipped, saying she was sick. difficult child caught on and wanted to know why she was sick every yr on his birthday? I told him to call her and find out. He left a msg inviting her to his birthday party and she called back immediately. That yr went much better. Still, they don't mingle well... just keep to themselves, wait for difficult child to open the piles and piles of gifts (seriously, an entire tableful of gifts), take pictures, and leave. The grandmother calls once or twice a yr to check up but that's about it.</p><p>He has expressed anger about the whole thing. He "gets it" intellectually, knowing how young she was when she had him, but doesn't "get it" emotionallly, and probably won't until he has kids of his own.</p><p>Meanwhile, I'm the target, which I understand is pretty typical.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, tomorrow will be better. The other mom has carpool and I'm going to sit at the computer in my pjs, drink tea, and print out poems and watercolors for my upcoming book. (My very first poetry book.) Then I meet an editor friend for lunch and he will nicely take a red pen and slice through everything, so I have to go home and rearrange it all again. But hey, it's better than dealing with-difficult child! </p><p>I'm also working on an acrylic portrait for a military family in VA Beach and should really finish it this weekend b4 they give up on me. </p><p> </p><p>Thank you all for your support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 152875, member: 3419"] My son's relationship with-his bmom is ... shallow. She and her mother pile gifts on him once a year. Guilt Gifts, we call them. The first few times we got together for Christmas/bdays (her older son, difficult child's 1/2 bro, is one yr and one wk older than difficult child), bmom spent the whole time on her cell ph, planning out what she was going to wear to the Christmas ofc party. Hardly spoke to difficult child at all. The next 3 yrs she skipped, saying she was sick. difficult child caught on and wanted to know why she was sick every yr on his birthday? I told him to call her and find out. He left a msg inviting her to his birthday party and she called back immediately. That yr went much better. Still, they don't mingle well... just keep to themselves, wait for difficult child to open the piles and piles of gifts (seriously, an entire tableful of gifts), take pictures, and leave. The grandmother calls once or twice a yr to check up but that's about it. He has expressed anger about the whole thing. He "gets it" intellectually, knowing how young she was when she had him, but doesn't "get it" emotionallly, and probably won't until he has kids of his own. Meanwhile, I'm the target, which I understand is pretty typical. Yes, tomorrow will be better. The other mom has carpool and I'm going to sit at the computer in my pjs, drink tea, and print out poems and watercolors for my upcoming book. (My very first poetry book.) Then I meet an editor friend for lunch and he will nicely take a red pen and slice through everything, so I have to go home and rearrange it all again. But hey, it's better than dealing with-difficult child! I'm also working on an acrylic portrait for a military family in VA Beach and should really finish it this weekend b4 they give up on me. Thank you all for your support. [/QUOTE]
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