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He Doesn't Have a Clue...
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 298453" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A scary but also somewhat flippant thought - could marriage to H be bad enough to cause this?</p><p></p><p>I didremember you had said she was unstable. I just wasn't sure if you had personally witnessed this or simply been told the Gospel according to H and his mother...</p><p></p><p>He does sound like he's almost asking for someone to control him, even though he then kicks against it. His mother controls him (maybe because it's learned behaviour on both their parts?) and he accepts it (maybe because it's learned behaviour on both their parts, again?). His mother tries to control everything and everyone. If she gets what she wants ie control and custody of difficult child, it WILL be a mess. But of course, she will make sure that you or his mother are blamed for it, since she didn't get to the kid soon enough to rescue him. You WILL be thrown under the bus, at least in their world.</p><p></p><p>Ironic that H would quit his job to avoid paying what he needs to, but then attacks you for your lack of responsibility to his kids (as he sees it).</p><p></p><p>What sort of compartmentalisation must he be donig in his head, to be able to cope with such constant contradictions in his own logic?</p><p></p><p>Wow.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 298453, member: 1991"] A scary but also somewhat flippant thought - could marriage to H be bad enough to cause this? I didremember you had said she was unstable. I just wasn't sure if you had personally witnessed this or simply been told the Gospel according to H and his mother... He does sound like he's almost asking for someone to control him, even though he then kicks against it. His mother controls him (maybe because it's learned behaviour on both their parts?) and he accepts it (maybe because it's learned behaviour on both their parts, again?). His mother tries to control everything and everyone. If she gets what she wants ie control and custody of difficult child, it WILL be a mess. But of course, she will make sure that you or his mother are blamed for it, since she didn't get to the kid soon enough to rescue him. You WILL be thrown under the bus, at least in their world. Ironic that H would quit his job to avoid paying what he needs to, but then attacks you for your lack of responsibility to his kids (as he sees it). What sort of compartmentalisation must he be donig in his head, to be able to cope with such constant contradictions in his own logic? Wow. Marg [/QUOTE]
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