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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 666199" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>PASA,</p><p></p><p>Your son has strengths from what I can see. He knows right from wrong. He has a sense of honor. He responds to the hurt of other people and wants to protect them. He has a strong will and will prevail. No matter what.</p><p></p><p>All of that came from you and your love for him. It could be so, so much worse.</p><p></p><p>As mothers alone we had to pick our battles. No one person could have done it all. That you are clear about. The thing is you are still holding yourself responsible at an emotional level.</p><p></p><p>The next important thing is forgiveness. For yourself.</p><p></p><p>Your son is a work in progress. The likely outcome is he will be confined again. I hope that is what happens. (But then, that is what I wanted for my own son, so that he would learn.)</p><p></p><p>I know in Texas the prisons are bad. But prisoners are the same everywhere. They will teach your son how to be a man. The prisoners call it "schooling."</p><p></p><p>This time he will not be the biggest kid.There are always bigger and smarter and meaner people. He needs to learn self control. He will learn that he cannot be a bully. He will learn respect.</p><p></p><p>Everybody has a life path. A mother can only take a son so far. You and I must learn to be OK with that.</p><p></p><p>The important next step for you...is to accept that you were a responsible and good enough mother in a difficult situation. Give yourself that PASA.</p><p></p><p>I for one am optimistic. How many kids, even with superior intelligence, and two parents <em>do not have</em> the strengths of your son?</p><p></p><p>Let us see how he does. There is nothing yet written here.</p><p></p><p>Now it is your turn, PASA. How will you write the rest of your life? It is starting now.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 666199, member: 18958"] PASA, Your son has strengths from what I can see. He knows right from wrong. He has a sense of honor. He responds to the hurt of other people and wants to protect them. He has a strong will and will prevail. No matter what. All of that came from you and your love for him. It could be so, so much worse. As mothers alone we had to pick our battles. No one person could have done it all. That you are clear about. The thing is you are still holding yourself responsible at an emotional level. The next important thing is forgiveness. For yourself. Your son is a work in progress. The likely outcome is he will be confined again. I hope that is what happens. (But then, that is what I wanted for my own son, so that he would learn.) I know in Texas the prisons are bad. But prisoners are the same everywhere. They will teach your son how to be a man. The prisoners call it "schooling." This time he will not be the biggest kid.There are always bigger and smarter and meaner people. He needs to learn self control. He will learn that he cannot be a bully. He will learn respect. Everybody has a life path. A mother can only take a son so far. You and I must learn to be OK with that. The important next step for you...is to accept that you were a responsible and good enough mother in a difficult situation. Give yourself that PASA. I for one am optimistic. How many kids, even with superior intelligence, and two parents [I]do not have[/I] the strengths of your son? Let us see how he does. There is nothing yet written here. Now it is your turn, PASA. How will you write the rest of your life? It is starting now. COPA [/QUOTE]
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