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He is starting to slide....
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 407692"><p>Thanks Everyone..... I feel lucky that the rehab place he went to has aftercare so that he is seeing the same therapists there. I am also so relieved he decided to stay down there. I really think left to his own devices this slide would have slid him right back into drug use. It may still of course but he is back talking to the therapists. One therapist is doing the therapy work with him and the other is doing more family stuff (and is in touch with us) and case management and life skills.... so she is on him about that scooter registration.</p><p></p><p>I just think that when a kid starts using drugs at an early age... they don't go through the normal healthy process of separating and becoming indpedent from their parents. It is much harder as parents to move into a supportive advisory role when you are having to watch their every move, make rules so they don't abuse you and your trust and all that. So our relationship is kind of messed up and he has no idea how to do things a 19 year old guy should know. I watch my daughter who is 15.... and we are going through a much more natural healthy process. We annoy her sometimes and she creates some distance, and then she comes close and brings us into her emotional life. She lets us in often, and the pushes us away... meanwhile doing more on her own and making more of her own decisions. We trust her which of course makes a huge difference. But it is so different than where we were with our son when he was her age. I totally respect her privacy and don't snoop because I have absolutely no reason to... she has never given me a reason not to trust her.....That was just not the case with my son. So now he needs to learn we are there to love him, give him emotional support and be sort of advisors but he is in charge of his life.... but I think that is a scary prospect for someone who screwed up the natural process with drug use. Anyway for now I am hopeful again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 407692"] Thanks Everyone..... I feel lucky that the rehab place he went to has aftercare so that he is seeing the same therapists there. I am also so relieved he decided to stay down there. I really think left to his own devices this slide would have slid him right back into drug use. It may still of course but he is back talking to the therapists. One therapist is doing the therapy work with him and the other is doing more family stuff (and is in touch with us) and case management and life skills.... so she is on him about that scooter registration. I just think that when a kid starts using drugs at an early age... they don't go through the normal healthy process of separating and becoming indpedent from their parents. It is much harder as parents to move into a supportive advisory role when you are having to watch their every move, make rules so they don't abuse you and your trust and all that. So our relationship is kind of messed up and he has no idea how to do things a 19 year old guy should know. I watch my daughter who is 15.... and we are going through a much more natural healthy process. We annoy her sometimes and she creates some distance, and then she comes close and brings us into her emotional life. She lets us in often, and the pushes us away... meanwhile doing more on her own and making more of her own decisions. We trust her which of course makes a huge difference. But it is so different than where we were with our son when he was her age. I totally respect her privacy and don't snoop because I have absolutely no reason to... she has never given me a reason not to trust her.....That was just not the case with my son. So now he needs to learn we are there to love him, give him emotional support and be sort of advisors but he is in charge of his life.... but I think that is a scary prospect for someone who screwed up the natural process with drug use. Anyway for now I am hopeful again. [/QUOTE]
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