that he wants to stick in my back.
My mom has a booth at a communal garage sale at the Fairgrounds today. Not a lot of stuff, or a lot of vendors but she is enjoying it.
We just went to see her, visit, look around before husband has a meeting for his Census job.
Wiz arrived as we did to spell her for an hour or so.
At first it was nice. Short visit with her, she made us take some things that we can really use - pasta bowls and some reusable plastic plates. After we had walked around we went back to talk to Wiz for a few minutes.
He said something about his instructor's moral lessons when I asked about school. I mentioned he could trust the family for moral lessons.
The little jerk said No, he couldn't because the people who know you best are the first to stick the knife in and twist it.
He looked right at me and it was very clear that he meant me primarily and husband secondarily.
I was stunned. NOTHING in our relationship in the last few years says that this is warranted. We have NEVER stuck a knife in his back, or his front. The last few years we have worked at healing our relationship whenever he will do things with us.
I didn't show him that I was upset. We had already started to say goodbye, so I hugged him and we left.
It does hurt though.
Every single step that we took was because it was needed - NOTHING was EVER done spitefully, not even making him leave. He was so dangerous and we had no other way to handle things. We tried everything else.
But it will probably always be something he uses as an excuse for whatever he can use it for. Even just stirring the waters to see what happens.
At least I didn't let him see that he hurt me, made me want to cry.
Why do I keep trying so dang hard with this kid? It NEVER has a good outcome. If he is around me with-o my parents being in the room or the next room he says stuff like this. It is a nasty habit/pattern. Even though I work very hard to keep it from showing, it HURTS.
How long do I have to ignore these comments before he stops thinking it is entertaining to try to upset me? I really think it is largely for his entertainment that he says things like this.
My mom has a booth at a communal garage sale at the Fairgrounds today. Not a lot of stuff, or a lot of vendors but she is enjoying it.
We just went to see her, visit, look around before husband has a meeting for his Census job.
Wiz arrived as we did to spell her for an hour or so.
At first it was nice. Short visit with her, she made us take some things that we can really use - pasta bowls and some reusable plastic plates. After we had walked around we went back to talk to Wiz for a few minutes.
He said something about his instructor's moral lessons when I asked about school. I mentioned he could trust the family for moral lessons.
The little jerk said No, he couldn't because the people who know you best are the first to stick the knife in and twist it.
He looked right at me and it was very clear that he meant me primarily and husband secondarily.
I was stunned. NOTHING in our relationship in the last few years says that this is warranted. We have NEVER stuck a knife in his back, or his front. The last few years we have worked at healing our relationship whenever he will do things with us.
I didn't show him that I was upset. We had already started to say goodbye, so I hugged him and we left.
It does hurt though.
Every single step that we took was because it was needed - NOTHING was EVER done spitefully, not even making him leave. He was so dangerous and we had no other way to handle things. We tried everything else.
But it will probably always be something he uses as an excuse for whatever he can use it for. Even just stirring the waters to see what happens.
At least I didn't let him see that he hurt me, made me want to cry.
Why do I keep trying so dang hard with this kid? It NEVER has a good outcome. If he is around me with-o my parents being in the room or the next room he says stuff like this. It is a nasty habit/pattern. Even though I work very hard to keep it from showing, it HURTS.
How long do I have to ignore these comments before he stops thinking it is entertaining to try to upset me? I really think it is largely for his entertainment that he says things like this.