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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 146678" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Stands, you and husband did what you thought was right for your son. There is no doubt in my mind that you both thought things were different this time, that your son truly wanted help. Who knows, maybe at the time he was bailed out, he truly did want help and wanted to quit. Sadly, the drugs won out. Quit blaming yourself. You did the best you could and you did what you thought was best for him.</p><p> </p><p>Now, sadly, it is time to truly stand with courage. You are going to have to let him flounder on his own. This is going to be the most painful, hardest thing you have ever done. However, it may be the only way to save him at this point. He's going to have to hit rock bottom. Right now, he has shelter, albeit not the shelter you ever thought a child of yours would have. It may get much worse and he may end up truly homeless. You're going to have to stand back and let all of this happen. Until he makes an honest effort to get help (not ask you to get the help for him) and then takes the steps necessary to help him with drug addiction, there is nothing you can do.</p><p> </p><p>If you let him come home, he'll have no reason to quit using. You can (and probably should) revoke his bond but the odds of the authorities making any real effort to find him are slim. So, don't bet that jail is really an option for keeping him safe at the present time. He will call and ask for help, but it won't be the kind of help you want to give. He'll want money. He'll probably even say it is for food and shelter. Odds are it would be used for drugs and alcohol. He is a drug addict. It is up to him to quit. </p><p> </p><p>For now, for you, many hugs. I'm so sorry you are once again going through this turmoil.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 146678, member: 3626"] Stands, you and husband did what you thought was right for your son. There is no doubt in my mind that you both thought things were different this time, that your son truly wanted help. Who knows, maybe at the time he was bailed out, he truly did want help and wanted to quit. Sadly, the drugs won out. Quit blaming yourself. You did the best you could and you did what you thought was best for him. Now, sadly, it is time to truly stand with courage. You are going to have to let him flounder on his own. This is going to be the most painful, hardest thing you have ever done. However, it may be the only way to save him at this point. He's going to have to hit rock bottom. Right now, he has shelter, albeit not the shelter you ever thought a child of yours would have. It may get much worse and he may end up truly homeless. You're going to have to stand back and let all of this happen. Until he makes an honest effort to get help (not ask you to get the help for him) and then takes the steps necessary to help him with drug addiction, there is nothing you can do. If you let him come home, he'll have no reason to quit using. You can (and probably should) revoke his bond but the odds of the authorities making any real effort to find him are slim. So, don't bet that jail is really an option for keeping him safe at the present time. He will call and ask for help, but it won't be the kind of help you want to give. He'll want money. He'll probably even say it is for food and shelter. Odds are it would be used for drugs and alcohol. He is a drug addict. It is up to him to quit. For now, for you, many hugs. I'm so sorry you are once again going through this turmoil. [/QUOTE]
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