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He makes way more money than I do so why the hell is he so broke all the time? (Vent)
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 556546" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>You know, it's a bit off topic, but the subject of "you need a break" really bothers me. Some of you got to get up in arms about not counting the new wife's income, so I get to be up in arms about this.</p><p></p><p>When L was about 12 years old, she stopped wanting to come for visits. We had M and he and L were never close, and she was cruel to him. She amped it up when she decided she'd rather not come for weekend visits.</p><p></p><p>L's dad, on the other hand LOVED having L come to visit us every other weekend. Her half sister lived with his ex, and L and her sister's weekends with and without him coincided. So, he was a bachelor every other weekend. L wasn't very nice to her half sister, either, and R had L in therapy for that and a host of other problems. I dutifully participated in the therapy, and the therapist finally told me, "L doesn't want to visit you on weekends, and forcing her is only making her like you less. Do what you can to keep your relationship close, but don't force overnight visits that she doesn't want." We agreed that was probably reasonable.</p><p></p><p>When I told her dad, <em>he</em> started to amp it up. He was going to take us to court and force us. He actually even put her into <em>foster care</em> for a year and tried to manipulate us into taking her. Puh-lease! We were working class people with house rules we expected people to participate in and chores for kids to do. School attendance was non-negotiable. L, on the other hand, was on a $100 a week allowance, had no curfew, had missed 52 days of school by December, and was staying out all night with adult men. There was <em>no way</em> we were taking her.</p><p></p><p>But, to my main point. I was broken-hearted for L when I realized how important it was for L's dad to dump her on us every other weekend because she was a burden to him. She knew it, I knew it, and he eventually had to know it, even if he wouldn't admit it was true.</p><p></p><p>The purpose of visitation is to maintain a healthy relationship between parents and kids. It shouldn't be looked at by either parent as a "me time" situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 556546, member: 99"] You know, it's a bit off topic, but the subject of "you need a break" really bothers me. Some of you got to get up in arms about not counting the new wife's income, so I get to be up in arms about this. When L was about 12 years old, she stopped wanting to come for visits. We had M and he and L were never close, and she was cruel to him. She amped it up when she decided she'd rather not come for weekend visits. L's dad, on the other hand LOVED having L come to visit us every other weekend. Her half sister lived with his ex, and L and her sister's weekends with and without him coincided. So, he was a bachelor every other weekend. L wasn't very nice to her half sister, either, and R had L in therapy for that and a host of other problems. I dutifully participated in the therapy, and the therapist finally told me, "L doesn't want to visit you on weekends, and forcing her is only making her like you less. Do what you can to keep your relationship close, but don't force overnight visits that she doesn't want." We agreed that was probably reasonable. When I told her dad, [I]he[/I] started to amp it up. He was going to take us to court and force us. He actually even put her into [I]foster care[/I] for a year and tried to manipulate us into taking her. Puh-lease! We were working class people with house rules we expected people to participate in and chores for kids to do. School attendance was non-negotiable. L, on the other hand, was on a $100 a week allowance, had no curfew, had missed 52 days of school by December, and was staying out all night with adult men. There was [I]no way[/I] we were taking her. But, to my main point. I was broken-hearted for L when I realized how important it was for L's dad to dump her on us every other weekend because she was a burden to him. She knew it, I knew it, and he eventually had to know it, even if he wouldn't admit it was true. The purpose of visitation is to maintain a healthy relationship between parents and kids. It shouldn't be looked at by either parent as a "me time" situation. [/QUOTE]
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