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He really doesn't get it...GRRRRR...
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 436447" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>That was a very difficult surgery and recovery is HARD. He had better be doing a LOT mroe than hooking up the dishwasher. My mom has had her wrists fused completely. They do NOT move at all. The first doctor wasn't very good and the current one is incredible. BOTH told her that one of the major problems with wrist surgery in women is that they still do way too much with their hands after surgery and they clean dishes or load dishwashers and they wipe their tushies and they get infections easily because this. Now not wiping probably isn't an option and unless they did both wrists you don't need another person to wipe for you, you can get a tool to hold the paper and you hole the other end. THESE are what the docs pushed onto my mother. She was very glad even though she is almost totally ambidextrous (she can write forward with one hand and backward with the other at the same time - it is freaky cool to watch, lol). I am sure you wash your hands and all, but there are still a lot of bacteria around. Plus it is hard to wash hands if one is bandaged at the wrist.</p><p></p><p>This is an example of what I am talking about: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Jobar-JB5231-Long-Reach-Comfort/dp/B001G70QW8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1307891979&sr=8-1" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Jobar-JB5231-Long-Reach-Comfort/dp/B001G70QW8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1307891979&sr=8-1</a></p><p></p><p>I think husband needs to be reminded that you are NOT healed and you are NOT supposed to be doing ANY housework. that you put this off for as long as you could and likely longer than you should and if you don't take care while you heal it will mean MORE surgery in the future and MORE expense and MORE chores for him to do. You are supposed to be keeping your hand up above the level of your heart and resting, not cleaning or taking him places.</p><p></p><p>have you ever thought about WHY he didn't go to the hospital with you when you had very delicate major surgery but shortly after this surgery, when you still had the blinkin' stitches in, you were supposed to stay at the hospital for so long when he had a procedure? Have you ever discussed this with him? It just seems like an unbalanced relationship where you give and give, even when it hurts but he doesn't even approach reciprocity. If you don't talk about this and figure out a way to compromise you are going to end up with a boatload of resentment and it will poison your marriage. been there done that and it is NOT easy to work through. </p><p></p><p>I hope that you will go to Urgent Care or at least call the doctor who operated if the stitches are pulling. This is likely a sign of inflammation which means either infection, over use or both. Infection after this surgery is not something to play with. There are a lot of nerves that could be infected leading to real damage.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 436447, member: 1233"] That was a very difficult surgery and recovery is HARD. He had better be doing a LOT mroe than hooking up the dishwasher. My mom has had her wrists fused completely. They do NOT move at all. The first doctor wasn't very good and the current one is incredible. BOTH told her that one of the major problems with wrist surgery in women is that they still do way too much with their hands after surgery and they clean dishes or load dishwashers and they wipe their tushies and they get infections easily because this. Now not wiping probably isn't an option and unless they did both wrists you don't need another person to wipe for you, you can get a tool to hold the paper and you hole the other end. THESE are what the docs pushed onto my mother. She was very glad even though she is almost totally ambidextrous (she can write forward with one hand and backward with the other at the same time - it is freaky cool to watch, lol). I am sure you wash your hands and all, but there are still a lot of bacteria around. Plus it is hard to wash hands if one is bandaged at the wrist. This is an example of what I am talking about: [url]http://www.amazon.com/Jobar-JB5231-Long-Reach-Comfort/dp/B001G70QW8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1307891979&sr=8-1[/url] I think husband needs to be reminded that you are NOT healed and you are NOT supposed to be doing ANY housework. that you put this off for as long as you could and likely longer than you should and if you don't take care while you heal it will mean MORE surgery in the future and MORE expense and MORE chores for him to do. You are supposed to be keeping your hand up above the level of your heart and resting, not cleaning or taking him places. have you ever thought about WHY he didn't go to the hospital with you when you had very delicate major surgery but shortly after this surgery, when you still had the blinkin' stitches in, you were supposed to stay at the hospital for so long when he had a procedure? Have you ever discussed this with him? It just seems like an unbalanced relationship where you give and give, even when it hurts but he doesn't even approach reciprocity. If you don't talk about this and figure out a way to compromise you are going to end up with a boatload of resentment and it will poison your marriage. been there done that and it is NOT easy to work through. I hope that you will go to Urgent Care or at least call the doctor who operated if the stitches are pulling. This is likely a sign of inflammation which means either infection, over use or both. Infection after this surgery is not something to play with. There are a lot of nerves that could be infected leading to real damage. [/QUOTE]
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