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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 40761" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>This is part of the suffering those with children doing what ours are doing go through that other parents will never know.</p><p></p><p>I think it is the most painful thing to realize, right up there with what we might have done differently and the way we obsessively track every smallest step of how it got to be what it is. (Well, I did that, anyway.) :cry: :blush: :smile:</p><p></p><p>When we realized difficult child was stealing, it affected our marriage. I refused to believe it, and condemned husband for believing it so readily.</p><p></p><p>It was true, though.</p><p></p><p>I admire your courage in requiring that honesty of yourself, hearthope.</p><p></p><p>I found strength in the Serenity Prayer, too.</p><p></p><p>Karen, I wonder if part of the reason you have been able to be so strong as you have gone through this is because you have a friend, an ally from whom you hide nothing?</p><p></p><p>There may be a good lesson for all of us in your story of Lucy and Ethel. I can just see the two of you, horrified together and laughing together and making it better together. I kept everything that was happening to us undercover. I was mortified that it happened to me ~ and that was because I believed I had failed. </p><p></p><p>So, maybe the most helpful thing any of us could do for ourselves and our families as we go through this is to stop being ashamed and to start making friends of those who can help us learn to laugh through the pain until it doesn't hurt as much, anymore.</p><p></p><p>We have all posted about the feeliing of isolation and shame at what the kids do. We have all posted about family gatherings where there is nothing good to say, so we say nothing.</p><p></p><p>I am going to try to view all this from that other perspective, as though I had a good Ethel or Lucy on my side in all this, too.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 40761, member: 3353"] This is part of the suffering those with children doing what ours are doing go through that other parents will never know. I think it is the most painful thing to realize, right up there with what we might have done differently and the way we obsessively track every smallest step of how it got to be what it is. (Well, I did that, anyway.) [img]:cry:[/img] [img]:blush:[/img] [img]:smile:[/img] When we realized difficult child was stealing, it affected our marriage. I refused to believe it, and condemned husband for believing it so readily. It was true, though. I admire your courage in requiring that honesty of yourself, hearthope. I found strength in the Serenity Prayer, too. Karen, I wonder if part of the reason you have been able to be so strong as you have gone through this is because you have a friend, an ally from whom you hide nothing? There may be a good lesson for all of us in your story of Lucy and Ethel. I can just see the two of you, horrified together and laughing together and making it better together. I kept everything that was happening to us undercover. I was mortified that it happened to me ~ and that was because I believed [b] [/b] I [b] [/b] had failed. So, maybe the most helpful thing any of us could do for ourselves and our families as we go through this is to stop being ashamed and to start making friends of those who can help us learn to laugh through the pain until it doesn't hurt as much, anymore. We have all posted about the feeliing of isolation and shame at what the kids do. We have all posted about family gatherings where there is nothing good to say, so we say nothing. I am going to try to view all this from that other perspective, as though I had a good Ethel or Lucy on my side in all this, too. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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