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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 363448" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>he left a message saying he only said/did anything because we are so angry with my parents and were set on attacking them while they were gone.</p><p></p><p>Delusions seem to entertain him. </p><p></p><p>The part of everything that is so scary for me is that we never know when he will blow. He has NEVER, not even one time, called me to say "Hey, I am really bothered by this. Is this a good time to talk or can we get together to talk?" Never.</p><p></p><p>He will rant and rave about how I am "angry" at him when I am not in the slightest even thinking of him, much less upset with him. He just explodes. Then, like a true difficult child, he is done and we should tell him how sorry we are and make nice. </p><p></p><p>I just remembered something from MY childhood. My paternal Gpa was an alcoholic. When bro and I were very young my mother told him that if he EVER had a drink around us he would never see us kids again. Period. Gpa became very mean, esp verbally, when he was drunk. (Or so I have been told.) Gpa did NOT drink around us because he believed my mom would do it. </p><p></p><p>This is not any different. If she tries to say it is, well, I will have to point this out. She may say that my bro isn't drinking so it is different, but it isn't. </p><p></p><p>Jess was finally able to verbalize that while what bro says really hurts, it is the way he blows up out of the clear blue sky and will physically prevent others from leaving until he is done berating them. I am not surprised that this is the part that scares her the most, but I am proud of her for being able to say what the main trigger of her fear and panic is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 363448, member: 1233"] he left a message saying he only said/did anything because we are so angry with my parents and were set on attacking them while they were gone. Delusions seem to entertain him. The part of everything that is so scary for me is that we never know when he will blow. He has NEVER, not even one time, called me to say "Hey, I am really bothered by this. Is this a good time to talk or can we get together to talk?" Never. He will rant and rave about how I am "angry" at him when I am not in the slightest even thinking of him, much less upset with him. He just explodes. Then, like a true difficult child, he is done and we should tell him how sorry we are and make nice. I just remembered something from MY childhood. My paternal Gpa was an alcoholic. When bro and I were very young my mother told him that if he EVER had a drink around us he would never see us kids again. Period. Gpa became very mean, esp verbally, when he was drunk. (Or so I have been told.) Gpa did NOT drink around us because he believed my mom would do it. This is not any different. If she tries to say it is, well, I will have to point this out. She may say that my bro isn't drinking so it is different, but it isn't. Jess was finally able to verbalize that while what bro says really hurts, it is the way he blows up out of the clear blue sky and will physically prevent others from leaving until he is done berating them. I am not surprised that this is the part that scares her the most, but I am proud of her for being able to say what the main trigger of her fear and panic is. [/QUOTE]
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