The lingerie in difficult child' backpack was, indeed the neighbor's. I am so relieved. difficult child really has to prove himself to us day by day. It's going to take a long time to get that trust back. I have no idea if it really was in his backpack all that time or if it was buried in the laundry or in his rm, but at least it isn't something new. I am so relieved I'm dancing in the hallways! He spent an hr doing chores today, incl. moving the sectional couch, cleaning toys and wrappers, and vaccuming junk from 1942. Blech. He's really good at chores once he puts his mind to them.