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He was up again last night
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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 251492" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">First the disclaimer: I have not been completely successful at avoiding the turn off the TV/game boy/computer explosions when it is time for bed.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">But, I try: My difficult child mainly explodes when things are not as he expected, when he is frustrated, or when he perceives something was not fair. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">- Early negotiation help set his expectations. Early plan B. 1. Emphasize or reflect his feelings. 2. put your desires and his on the table. 3. Talk about it. Give him a chance to express his desires, repeat them and understand they are real whether or not they make sense to you. Then come up with a pre-event plan together.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">- Stick as best possible to the plan.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">- Give 15, 10 and 5 minute warnings before lights out time. Be susseptible to mild adjustments to the plan. (I am watching a video I down loaded, it will be over in 10 mins.)</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">- If my difficult child got mad because everyone else was watching TV it would be for one of 2 reasons: he perceived it was not fair or in his mind he envisioned himself watching X show on Y TV set, and any deviation from that visions sets him off. If it is the "it's not fair" situation, plan B works (sometimes). If it is the "deviation from the vision" situation, moving everyone else to the other TV works (sometimes).</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Good Luck.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 251492, member: 6557"] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]First the disclaimer: I have not been completely successful at avoiding the turn off the TV/game boy/computer explosions when it is time for bed.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]But, I try: My difficult child mainly explodes when things are not as he expected, when he is frustrated, or when he perceives something was not fair. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]- Early negotiation help set his expectations. Early plan B. 1. Emphasize or reflect his feelings. 2. put your desires and his on the table. 3. Talk about it. Give him a chance to express his desires, repeat them and understand they are real whether or not they make sense to you. Then come up with a pre-event plan together.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]- Stick as best possible to the plan.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]- Give 15, 10 and 5 minute warnings before lights out time. Be susseptible to mild adjustments to the plan. (I am watching a video I down loaded, it will be over in 10 mins.)[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]- If my difficult child got mad because everyone else was watching TV it would be for one of 2 reasons: he perceived it was not fair or in his mind he envisioned himself watching X show on Y TV set, and any deviation from that visions sets him off. If it is the "it's not fair" situation, plan B works (sometimes). If it is the "deviation from the vision" situation, moving everyone else to the other TV works (sometimes).[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]Good Luck.[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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