Nichole couldn't stand the silent treatment anymore. She called her on her cell like twice.....finally left a message. lol She called Nichole back, they chatted a bit, made arrangements for Nichole to pick them up for Brandon's 2nd birthday party tomorrow. Only real info Nichole found out was that kayla now has her glasses and oddly enough she LOVES them. Go figure. Nichole figured since katie had contacted her she'd contact me. Told her I doubted it. I only hear from katie these days when she wants/needs something. And last few times I've heard from them at all was stupid M calling me over the computer the shelter let him have.......until I stopped answering the phone. There are only so many ways to say no travis will not help you fix it, no you're not loading my vista or windows 7 onto it......why? because I bought and paid for it duh. So I stopped answering the phone. ugh Two days later up pops a mail from Katie.......this after she told Nichole they don't have access to the shelter computer anymore. Thinking M caused some issue with it. She tells me Kayla got her glasses just fine. Her mouth is better and that 2nd dentist said she has to go to an oral surgeon for the removal of the rest as her roots are overly long. Said Kayla got the Good Apple award at school for being caught doing something good for someone and asked if I'd watch for her in the paper. I will but katie won't get the article, I'll save it for kayla. Then came the I'm so worried I'm not sleeping/eating bit. M has been trying so hard to find work. Notice she does not say SHE has been looking for work. phht And the reason I got the mail? Their exit date is the 27th. Now how did I see that coming?? Didn't need a premonition for that one. And all should be well cuz M is gonna look even harder for work. omg I'm sorry. The man is a felon. The charge is burglary and I believe it was armed. No one in this area will touch him with a ten foot pole. Now back 10 yrs ago when background checks were rare......... But not now when even Mc D's does a background check. In this area especially? He doesn't stand a chance. It will literally take a miracle. That would be if he was actually trying, which of course he isn't at all. Travis' friend who volunteers out at the shelter keeps us updated. Katie and M won't leave the shelter unless forced to do so. Says all there is to say. So they went in there, did what they always do. Her playing/not playing sick doing the victim deal......him being the overgrown kid hyper focusing on computers even if one is not available. Neither at all concerned for the future until they're told an exit date. I though perhaps the shelter would pad that a bit due to weather. I'm guessing they would have if either Katie or M had shown any real effort. So I wrote her back. Told her glad kayla finally got her glasses, glad her mouth felt better. Told her that the library where Nichole is at is having a Princess Party on the 17th and husband and I would like to take kayla so she can dress up and go with Aubrey. Told her that I got Alex's letter for school asking us to sponsor him in some thingie or another and yes we'll scrape up some cash and buy a magazine as will his aunts and maybe even Travis. Told her I'd like to help the kids get into Scouts....including Evan....as I know here at least they make special effort for low income kids to always be included as Nichole was in it for a few years and she loved it.....and nana and papa could help some if needed. Told her that as soon as I'm well her and I are going to lunch together ALONE to talk, visit whatever. (actually this is for that Momma talk) Only thing I said about the exit date? I asked if the shelter has some sort of plan in place. She was informed when she went into this shelter that all shelters in this state communicate with each other. In ohio you're not allowed to just go from shelter to shelter to shelter. Understandable as there are people who do just that and never leave the shelter situation. She's been in 2 ohio shelters since what November? Before that the St. Louis shelter. She was told entering this shelter no other would take her. Katie and family will not come here. I will not go pick up their things from the shelter. If I go pick up their things from the shelter even to bring them here to store it will appear to shelter staff they have somewhere to go, which they don't. I want that fact clear with shelter staff. I will not pick them up from the shelter on that date or even a date close to it, same reason. On the 27th I will be totally unavailable. The entire family will be unavailable. As for the grands............ I'd like to say I'll take them. There is a part of me that very much wants to take them and give them the life they deserve to have. Then there is reality which I've been forced to face the past 10 days. I have chronic renal failure, the past almost 2 yrs the condition has deteriorated considerably, not that it was that great before. I've already had one heart attack most likely caused by the renal failure. I came down with a resp bug about 10 or more days ago. I can't throw it. My kidneys are giving me major issues due to it. There have been at least 2 nights when 911 should have been called......only I didn't have the presence of mind to make that call or even wake husband to make that call. Nights are the worst. I have slept maybe a total of 6-8 hrs in those 10 or more days, regardless of how much time I spend in the bed. Not all due to coughing.....or swelling up so bad I can't breathe....but raging fevers and night sweats don't help. This bug has forced me once again to take a long hard look at my own mortality. How would I cope with being that sick with 3 kids in the house, 2 of which are very needy difficult children? My condition is not going to get better it's going to get worse. husband is 63 in April. He does his best to pick up the slack especially if kids are in the house.......but he is old and tired and well c'mon he's lazy. ugh He's a heart attack waiting to happen and when it hits he won't survive. easy child has moved back into her small starter home in order to remove her family from her manipulative mother in law's clutches. She no longer has room to take in 3 more kids. They barely fit themselves. I don't know what will come out of my mouth when that call comes. Family is everything to me. I'm hoping since this illness my brain overrules my heart. I would hate to have the kids come here, get settled and then have to be moved into foster care. Yet the thought of them being tossed into the system makes my soul ache. I know there are many good foster homes out there. I also know in this area there are many many more very bad ones. They are all overwhelmed. If the shelter does not do a transfer to another shelter, and I'm really thinking they don't given what they told her during admission, katie will lose her children on the 27th. You can't be homeless and keep your kids. This is why family won't be there to pick them or their things up. I want the shelter to know they have no where to go. I want cps called in immediately. It is time for this to stop for the grands whether they go into foster care or come stay here. This all on top of Nichole teetering on the edge of walking away from boyfriend forever. If she does there is nowhere else for her to go but here and she's been told the door will always be open to her and Aubrey. I can do that with no guilt. Nichole is not Katie. God has a plan. I just wish he'd be a bit clearer on what he expects of me in his plans. Would also be nice if I could be well enough to live up to those expectations.