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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 690604" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Karisma, welcome to the forum, I am so sorry for your need to be here. The kind folks here have helped me so much on my journey with my two. We love our children, I don't think anyone who has not gone through this suffering of their illnesses or choices can relate to the devastating loss and emotional roller coaster. It is a different kind of grieving, because they are still here on this earth.</p><p>My eldest is homeless, she seems content with her situation. She is on meth, and not in her right mind. Growing up, she had issues with school, but did not present with anything at the time indicating mental illness. I wonder now, what happened? It seems that she went through a series of choices with " bad boys" and went downhill from there. A lifestyle of drinking and partying ensued, with periods of seemingly mainstream living, jobs, a bad marriage, to meth use and homelessness. It has been a rough ride for the family. I love her with all of my heart, but realize that this is her journey and she will make her own choices, regardless of how it affects her, and us. We tried off and on for years to help by having her home with us, but that always came with a feeling of entitlement. We were stolen from and subjected to her lifestyle. I would come home to her "friends", it was an unsafe situation for our home. Our live was completely taken for granted and advantage of. It was a heartwrenching lesson.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is so true. We are each of us here on this earth for such a short time. It is hard as a mother to let go, we are so focused on loving, caring for and raising our children. It can become our very identity. I think most of us have gone through stages of giving up our lives to try desperately to help, only to wind up in a pit of despair because nothing seems to work. That is because in the long run, there are choices our d cs make and they will live the way they choose.</p><p>It is difficult for parents too, with d cs who have a diagnosed mental illness, what is the line drawn there?</p><p>We are each on our own journeys dealing with this. I am glad you found this soft place to land and pour your heart out to folks who understand.</p><p>Keep posting, it is a comfort and also a help to others on the path.</p><p>You have value and worth beyond measure. Please take time to be kind and gentle with yourself, find something to help you lift up. Life is short, and you have your own meaning and purpose.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 690604, member: 19522"] Hi Karisma, welcome to the forum, I am so sorry for your need to be here. The kind folks here have helped me so much on my journey with my two. We love our children, I don't think anyone who has not gone through this suffering of their illnesses or choices can relate to the devastating loss and emotional roller coaster. It is a different kind of grieving, because they are still here on this earth. My eldest is homeless, she seems content with her situation. She is on meth, and not in her right mind. Growing up, she had issues with school, but did not present with anything at the time indicating mental illness. I wonder now, what happened? It seems that she went through a series of choices with " bad boys" and went downhill from there. A lifestyle of drinking and partying ensued, with periods of seemingly mainstream living, jobs, a bad marriage, to meth use and homelessness. It has been a rough ride for the family. I love her with all of my heart, but realize that this is her journey and she will make her own choices, regardless of how it affects her, and us. We tried off and on for years to help by having her home with us, but that always came with a feeling of entitlement. We were stolen from and subjected to her lifestyle. I would come home to her "friends", it was an unsafe situation for our home. Our live was completely taken for granted and advantage of. It was a heartwrenching lesson. This is so true. We are each of us here on this earth for such a short time. It is hard as a mother to let go, we are so focused on loving, caring for and raising our children. It can become our very identity. I think most of us have gone through stages of giving up our lives to try desperately to help, only to wind up in a pit of despair because nothing seems to work. That is because in the long run, there are choices our d cs make and they will live the way they choose. It is difficult for parents too, with d cs who have a diagnosed mental illness, what is the line drawn there? We are each on our own journeys dealing with this. I am glad you found this soft place to land and pour your heart out to folks who understand. Keep posting, it is a comfort and also a help to others on the path. You have value and worth beyond measure. Please take time to be kind and gentle with yourself, find something to help you lift up. Life is short, and you have your own meaning and purpose. (((Hugs))) Leaf [/QUOTE]
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