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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 618920" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Until our children are grown, we are responsible for someone outside ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Read more: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/heaven-and-hell.56352/#ixzz2rzCWh4YA" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/heaven-and-hell.56352/#ixzz2rzCWh4YA</a></p><p></p><p>UNTIL OUR CHILDREN ARE GROWN. Until our children are grown. <em>Until our children are grown</em>. <strong>Until our children are grown.</strong></p><p></p><p>The legal age is 18, the drinking age is 21 and then they are adults right? The courts consider them responsible at 18 and they can also go to war. Let's even give them some leeway here, for our culture of "too precious" children and "helicopter parents" and "sense of entitlement." </p><p></p><p>At what point are they grown? I know that is something we have all struggled with. And then when there is mental illness we get even more confused.</p><p></p><p>I know that my difficult child is a 24.5 year old man with a maturity of a 13 year old. Is he grown? </p><p></p><p>He has clinical depression? How does that affect his age of adulthood?</p><p></p><p>I don't know all of the black and white answers to these questions, but I do know these things:</p><p></p><p>He can certainly live on his own when he wants to, even on the street for a 30-day period.</p><p></p><p>He can certainly find drugs and sell drugs and take drugs when he wants to.</p><p></p><p>He will NEVER have a chance to be a contributing adult, healthy and ethical and fine, unless I can let him figure that out on his own.</p><p></p><p>So, thankfully, culture and society says my son is an adult today. I don't have that hurdle. I just have myself to contend with on that question. And I have decided, I have decided, that he is an adult and I need to really, really, really give him the chance to be one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 618920, member: 17542"] Until our children are grown, we are responsible for someone outside ourselves. Read more: [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/heaven-and-hell.56352/#ixzz2rzCWh4YA[/url] UNTIL OUR CHILDREN ARE GROWN. Until our children are grown. [I]Until our children are grown[/I]. [B]Until our children are grown.[/B] The legal age is 18, the drinking age is 21 and then they are adults right? The courts consider them responsible at 18 and they can also go to war. Let's even give them some leeway here, for our culture of "too precious" children and "helicopter parents" and "sense of entitlement." At what point are they grown? I know that is something we have all struggled with. And then when there is mental illness we get even more confused. I know that my difficult child is a 24.5 year old man with a maturity of a 13 year old. Is he grown? He has clinical depression? How does that affect his age of adulthood? I don't know all of the black and white answers to these questions, but I do know these things: He can certainly live on his own when he wants to, even on the street for a 30-day period. He can certainly find drugs and sell drugs and take drugs when he wants to. He will NEVER have a chance to be a contributing adult, healthy and ethical and fine, unless I can let him figure that out on his own. So, thankfully, culture and society says my son is an adult today. I don't have that hurdle. I just have myself to contend with on that question. And I have decided, I have decided, that he is an adult and I need to really, really, really give him the chance to be one. [/QUOTE]
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